# everlasting friendship?

Category: Let's talk

## Post 1 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Tuesday, 24-May-2005 17:56:27

have you ever fallen out with a really good friend and then regretted it, but not been able to go back and fix things? and as a result the friendship has died? Or have you ever been on the receiving end of something a good friend has said and after the event you wished that you hadn't taken things so personally but you couldn't go back and say it was ok?
I think friendship can be so important, we need our friends almost above everything else, and yet sometimes we seem to let them go almost without noticing it. Why is it, that we take our friends for granted,and that if we lose them, we just go out and find new ones, shouldn't we work harder to preserve the friendships we already have? is anything in life really that bad that it's worth losing friends over?

## Post 2 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 24-May-2005 23:57:40

well s they say Something broken can never be fixed. Friendship is trust a serious argument can break this trust. Yeah I’ve been through both I had a friend and she broke my trust. I also accidentally broke someones trust. Well I think when you meet some one you don’t consider them as friends immediately, you need to know them and interact witrh them first and see if you both clique. Well as for me I don’t chose my friends everyone can be my friend. When I meet someone the first thing I look for is our chemistry. Or if we have a good connection. Well friends are hard to find out of a hand full of people only a few is your true friend. that friend will never judge you and he/she will always be there for you in good and bad times. Well I have lots of friends but only 5 are my true friends.

## Post 3 by Resonant (Find me alive.) on Wednesday, 25-May-2005 1:34:11

I totally agree. Good friends are so very essential, and impossible to replace. Especially since so much of a strong friendship is based on shared experiences/history. I've never lost a good friend from a fight, but I've let a few drift away quietly from neglect, and I have a whole tonne of regret for that.

## Post 4 by iammewhoru (Veteran Zoner) on Wednesday, 25-May-2005 8:45:01

I believe that people are put in our lives for one reason or another. SOme relationships are meant to last and others are only a means to an end. I really think that having a true friendship doesn't always mean that you have to like the person all of the time or talk to the person all of the time, but when push comes to shove you should feel (even if your a little embarrased)that you can just pick up where you left off and be there for them and them for you in a time of need. We are all human which makes us falable. I don't think that in losing some one you just replace them. A true friend can never really be replaced because each person is so unique and adds something special to our lives. In turn, I do feel that your friend network should always be growing.

## Post 5 by wildebrew (We promised the world we'd tame it, what were we hoping for?) on Wednesday, 25-May-2005 9:04:35

That is a good point. I don't think a friend nor anyone in that matter can be replaced per say. You may find someone whom you share something with and is a friend to you and that friendship may be just as good but it's never the same as a previous friendship was. Same with relationships really, if you kept looking for someone just like a person you broke up with you'd never be happy but if you embraced a new person and appreciate that person for who he/she is then you can experience new magic in your life. As for true friends I feel they'd never let you down and you'dnever let them down and I thik their opinions are always fair game and you should listen and not be offended by anything that they have to say to you. They are also the people that you can feel completely at home with and if you are away for a year and come back, even if the situation has changed you still feel as if no time ever passed and that you're right there at home with them again. I think friendships are sometimes even more long lasting and they are certainly more selfless than romantic relationships because a friend does not demand as much from you, doesn't judge you, doesn't expect you to be exclusive and will forgive you almost anything you do. I think it's something everyone needs in their lives.
Cheers
-B

## Post 6 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Wednesday, 25-May-2005 9:11:50

I've fallen out with my male friends, but I have always tried so hard to resolve things and we eventually reached an understanding. However, with my female friends it was nearly impossible, as I had been reckless and less than faithful.Ahh the foolishness of youth...

## Post 7 by bermuda-triangulese (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Wednesday, 25-May-2005 9:23:06

I've lost a few very close friends, one of them I made the effor tand patched things up, the other, who'm I've known for about 9 years, I didn't. I will never know exactly why that is, lol.

## Post 8 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Wednesday, 25-May-2005 9:27:54

I think it's possible to let friends drift out of your life, or to lose touch with them. when I left south Africa I lost touch with a lot of my friends, partly because it's too expensive to call and writing letters ain't my thing, and partly because, well school friends often do drift apart. but years later I regained contact with some of them via email and we're still friends, and that, I think, is the measure of true friendship.

## Post 9 by Senior (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Thursday, 26-May-2005 11:02:53

I have lost contact with some of those I haven't met for ages. I think it's important to have people who you can turn to when you need someone to help in some way. You have to know the persons strengths and weaknesses so your friendship with them will be more useful to you. I've had fall outs, the ones I've wanted to patch up I usually had, the ones I feel needed to happen, well I've made sure I'm treated how I wanted to be treated by everybody somehow. It's awful to lose a friendship with someone who gives you the impression that the disagreement you both had has been resolved. If that happened to me, I'd feel very pissed off with the person who did that to me, and I wouldn't let them mess me about like that in the future. Nobody should make up with someone if they're just going to fall out with them or the chances of that happening are very high.