# respect

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Tuesday, 02-Oct-2007 13:34:15

hey all. I think this will be a good topic. Ok, where has respect gone? All too often i see guys hit on random chicks. now, i'm not saying Messaging random chicks is wrong but what is wrong is asking the size of there brests and things of that nature. that gets you no where. and also, i believe you should get to know a person before dating them. Now, i never have had a girlfriend in my life. I'm just saying how i see things. if you agree or disagree with me, it's cool.
and one more question, how in the heck do guys go so low? i mean are you that desperate?
Now, i will admit, sometimes i have felt desperate but i have enough self respect that i don't go on here or myspace and start asking for dates or what have you.
Yes i have msged random people on myspace but it was only for friendship and if something happened, then it happened.
If you think i'm all hi and mighty about myself then let me know but i dont' think so, i'm just saying what i've come across.
Thank you.

## Post 2 by moonspun (This site is so "educational") on Tuesday, 02-Oct-2007 14:13:18

Austin
Thank you. This post made me smile. I'm glad to see that somebody who respects women so much calls all women chicks! It's wonderful! I'm not poking fun at you, but it did brighten my day.
FM

## Post 3 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Tuesday, 02-Oct-2007 14:17:45

i'm glad.

## Post 4 by SingerOfSongs (Heresy and apostasy is how progress is made.) on Tuesday, 02-Oct-2007 14:43:38

Honestly I don't see any problem with the people that come on here and as you put it "ask for dates." Different people come here for different reasons. I agree that the whole right off the bat "what breast size do you have," is a bit lacking in common tact, but if the receiver of the question doesn't like it they can ignore the question, or tell them to shove off. BTW, what are you basing your statement that it gets them no where off of? I'm just curious, as you just tossed that out there. Also, while I agree for myself I'd prefer to get to know someone before I even decide whether I like them for the most part, that isn't how everyone operates, and I'm sure for some people other methods work for them, otherwise they probably wouldn't be tried, or tried more than a couple of times.

## Post 5 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Tuesday, 02-Oct-2007 15:52:43

well, i got that from here really. now i know here really means nothing but that was the basis.

## Post 6 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Wednesday, 03-Oct-2007 17:28:58

i much say, i enjoy this topic greatly. keep those comments coming.

## Post 7 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Wednesday, 03-Oct-2007 19:44:51

I myself have the respect. I get to know people before dating them and I don't go around asking for dates especially if I don't know the person really well or at all.
Troy

## Post 8 by Voldemort (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 03-Oct-2007 20:18:38

What is you guys' deffinition of a date? I respect the ladies, and I would never approach someone and ask for their breast size. I have known some rude guys. However, how are you supposed to really get to know someone without a date?

## Post 9 by kl1964 (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Thursday, 04-Oct-2007 1:24:07

Man, I haven't even thought of this topic for a very long time. I've been out of the dating pool for over two decades, and now that I can theoretically get back in it I realy have no clue. I do know that I'd probably want to know someone at least a little bit before going on a date with them.

## Post 10 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 04-Oct-2007 19:24:16

Hey, you can get so many definitions of respect if you ask different people. Thanks a lot for posting this topic. I think we should all go back to defining respect because I feel like it’s been lost a long time ago. It’s just a coincidence because the other day someone from here that I don’t even know started talking to me. He got my msn without my permission. I mean the conversation was okay until he asked, “Hey, whats your size?” That’s really irritating because I don’t even know him, and the conversation topic was too inappropriate for approaching to chat with someone for the first time. I don’t like it when people ask about those types of things. Another thing, he keeps on calling me sexy. First of all, I don’t even know this person and second of all, he just randomly approached me out of “nowhere” I’m okay with everyone talking to me, but not asking about stuff like that. I know for the fact the respect has been lost a long time ago. But I’m aware of it the whole time. Respect people if you want to be respected. Yes, that’s what they say, but sometimes they put it upon themselves to be disrespected for instance, wearing clothes that are too provocative for attention, talking about topics that are too obscene, and some other stuff that I noticed are this often used phrase, “I d rather go somewhere on a Friday night than stay home because that is so boring.” I’m so glad I was raised in a different country. To be honest, sometimes girls here in America put it upon themselves to be disrespected. I’m not saying everyone okay? I’m just saying in general. I know not everyone in here all like that, I’m just pointing out what I observed during the last four years of my stay here in the US. I think it's not only US, this issue happens everywhere. It depends on the person and how well or worse they handle the situation. You got to have values in order to surpass unwanted circumstances. As far as being desperate for a date or a relationship? don’t look for it, it will come unexpectedly. I want to be fair to everyone, so feel free to agree or disagree with me.

## Post 11 by Voldemort (Account disabled) on Thursday, 04-Oct-2007 20:08:42

I agree. And, as for the prick that approached you like that, well, I've already given my opinion. He's a prick.

## Post 12 by louiano (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 05-Oct-2007 0:19:50

well, dating in general has a lot of things going on (if it is done with respect and the right way indeed). If you are so desperate or want a good selection of breast sizes and such, then do yourself and all of us a favor and either go the IRC adult chats or... why not? get the free chatlines and call them too. Although I won't say that there are all kinds of things for all people. Respect has indeed been lost on many ways, not just dating. Segregation in many ways (racial, depending on disability and such, ethnic, ETC.) is also considered a form of disrespect. Making yourself respected is a very apreciated and relaxing ability. You just have to show you know about what you are talking and that you can do things just as much as everyone can. You can also add seriousness. if the peron doesn't care then neither will I anyway. If respect was more uviquitous then i guess things would really work out better among many people.

## Post 13 by SingerOfSongs (Heresy and apostasy is how progress is made.) on Friday, 05-Oct-2007 15:50:33

You have to remember though that what some might see as respect another may see as insult. Who's customs would you go by? Also, I'd invite people to take a look at the definition of respect. here That's at dictionary.com. By the definitions I see there respect seems more to be admiration, deference, and/or obedience to what is expected of you.

## Post 14 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Friday, 09-Nov-2007 23:50:06

that's an interesting point. but i had to bring this one back. this one has got lost in the shuffle. i'd like to see more comments on this topic.

## Post 15 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Monday, 14-Jul-2008 4:38:54

hey guys. i'd like to bring this one back :). It made me smile to read this bored from almost a year ago. i still live life this way :). i believe it gets me real far.

## Post 16 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 17-Jul-2008 21:57:06

I was reading a book earlier a couple of weeks ago, and I thought about this topic and its relationship to the book. I just got this from a book, but i think its part of this topic. The author says that, the four pillars of respect are manners, language, honoring the rules, and appreciating differences. I will write a few quotes that i got out from the book.
"Without good manners human society becomes intolerable and impossible."
This next one is for language. "A man's words will always express what has been treasured in his heart."
This other quote is for honoring the rules. "When we as individuals, obey laws that direct us to behave for the welfare of the community as a whole, we are indirectly helping to promote the pursuit of happiness by our fellow human beings."
This is the quote for appreciating differences. "The truth never becomes clear as long as we assume that each one of us, individually, is the center of the universe."
Respect is a traditional value, but even though its the 21st century, respect should never be forgotten.

## Post 17 by blindndangerous (the blind and dangerous one) on Thursday, 17-Jul-2008 22:38:51

I will say that respect has been lost a while ago now. Really, everything that I wanted to say, has been said by Voldemort, and Juan.

## Post 18 by Austin (the magic fan!) on Sunday, 14-Sep-2008 16:01:38

yes. i just wanted to bring this one back again. i really enjoy this one :).

## Post 19 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 20-Sep-2008 14:29:07

No comments, but yeah poster 17 your right. Respect has been lost a long time ago. Sad to say this but people these days don't even realize it that it's happening everyday. I think though the major problem is self respect. People always think that respect involves other people, but what they don't realize is that respect has to start with your self and other people can go next. In my opinion, self respect involves self control, the courage to say no, and your own personal standards on what you think is acceptable and what you allow others to do with you. In requires knowing your's and other people's limitations when your dealing with people. Respect always join along with what you value. If you think some thing or someone is important, you'll respect them. If you value honesty and word of honor then you will act upon what you believe. Respect reflects through a person's words and actions.

## Post 20 by Sexy CC (Veteran Zoner) on Monday, 06-Oct-2008 23:29:38

Austen, your the man, someone who sees that the value of self respect has diminished. I've seen some girls just throw themselves at a random guy, then later complain about the lack of respect they don't receive from this particular guy. No your not all high and Mighty what u say is the damn truth, sad but true, nothing but self disrespect. Unfortunately the guys who randomly hit on women and scrue whoever and don't give a damn make all u good guys lolok really bad u no the hole starieo type, Men are dogs, whitch isn't true for all men, some of us women r just as bad.
if anyone else agrees come foward my fellow zoners, nad fill free to point out anything else

## Post 21 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Monday, 08-Jun-2009 4:05:37

are you talking about James from Tenessee or rather he calls himself Lutherk, austin?
Yeah, I don't like that stuff either. The problem today is, even if you say "I don't like it" or "I rather not talk about that kind of stuff" they still either keep it up or get mad and abusive.
Also today, if a guy wants to do sex, it's "Hey lets do this" and you rarely get the asking if they are sure and do they feel comfortable anymore. I don't date, but I was talking to a few guys on here who are kind enough, and luckily they still have that kind of respect, but I know a lot of the guys in this world or just on this site, don't even have this kind of respect for the woman's liberty to consenting.