# 10 ways to get the man you want

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by dream lady (move over school!) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 14:30:36

1. Find out what he likes to talk about, research, and learn all you can about the subjects or interests he wants to talk about.
2. While you're talking to him whether on the phone, in person, via e-mail, (etc) give him your undivided attention.
3. Learn to tune into his moods and recognize when he needs your emotional support
4. Treat him with respect, but let him know you deserve his respect. Never take abuse or sarcasstic remarks from him. You're worth more than that.
5. Take him on a picnic and prepare his favorite foods.
6. Let him know what your dreams are, and what you want from a relationship.
7. Don't give compliments unless you mean them. Guys usually know when a girl's sincere.
8. Let him have his space, and in return, he'll always come back.
9. Tell him like it is. He can't read your mind. The same should go for him. You can't read his either.
10. If he's not for you, tell him. Usually, you'll still have a lifelong friend

## Post 2 by HauntedReverie (doing the bad mango) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 15:40:36

how about scratch all that and just... be yourself. A man/woman should love you for who you naturally are, not what a list tells you to be.

## Post 3 by VolcanicAsh (Zone BBS Addict) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 16:20:38

I think that some of that may work for some people in some situations but I don't think you can write a universal list for getting and or keeping a guy/girl.

## Post 4 by Farzana (Veteran Zoner) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 18:29:27

laughing outloud.

## Post 5 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 21:08:48

just be yourself, simple as that.

## Post 6 by Nem (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 21:32:28

I don't think this list is bad at all. It isn't say don't be yourself it is saying treat your perspective partner in a matter that befits someone who you care about. For that matter, you should strive to treat anyone you care about in that manner. Good Job
Nem-

## Post 7 by maroon five (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 20-Feb-2007 6:48:56

I agree with Chelsea, Ash and haunted reverry, [sorry no good at spelling names]. You just have to be yourself, and everything else will just fall into place. If your man loves you, and you love him, it's easier to just follow your hearts. A list is fine, but it's not something you should follow to the letter either. The only thing you should really follow, is your heart, and your head. Your man/woman doesn't want a robot, they want you! the real you! and I'm sure you'd want the real them as well.

## Post 8 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Tuesday, 20-Feb-2007 9:10:19

The 1st 8 suggestions imply that the woman should be submissive..most men are not impressed by a submissive partner,unless they want to control her every move.

## Post 9 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Tuesday, 20-Feb-2007 14:21:25

liz, that was my point exactly. everything on that list should just fall into place.

## Post 10 by DancingAfterDark (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 20-Feb-2007 19:55:57

They do not imply that a woman should be submissive, only that she should take into consideration her partners feelings, wants, and interests. And I agree with Nem. I don't think this list is intended as a how-to manual, but more as a guideline or suggestion. The basic idea, as I perceive it, is that you should respect and show your appreciation for your partner, but not to the point that it becomes overbearing or clingy. Of course you should always be yourself, and if something on the list isn't something you would do then don't do it, but I think people are taking it too far and misunderstanding its point.

## Post 11 by Jess227 on Tuesday, 20-Feb-2007 20:49:50

Yes do be yourself. There is one item on the list I do agree with. Every once in a while make him his favorite meals. I mean I made my exbf Tim a german chocolate cake because thats his favorite desert. And thats what we had for desert.

## Post 12 by dream lady (move over school!) on Wednesday, 21-Feb-2007 1:29:25

I wasn't suggesting that this list should be universal. I was just listing stuff that helpped me in my dating experiences. It's like baking a cake. Everything on that list is optional. If anyone has suggestions on what helps them in their dating experiences, then by all means speak up. I need all the help I can get. lol. Thanks for posting.

## Post 13 by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today (LivingLifeAndLovingItToo) on Wednesday, 21-Feb-2007 11:25:17

Jesus Christ people. Calm down. This is a great list, and obviously it is a list of guidelines only, not a strict how to manual. I agree with each and every suggestion on that list and think that all people would be well-advised to keep them in mind, if not follow them exactly "to the letter" as someone put it. Also, I do not believe that it implies that women should always be submissive. I thought it presented an equal and balanced perspective emphasizing equality, respect and communication in a relationship. Good job to the topic's creator, and all the rest of you, take a chill pill. Hell, overdose on a whole bottle of chill pills.

## Post 14 by forereel (Just posting.) on Tuesday, 13-Mar-2007 12:34:45

Yes this is a great list. Being ones self isn't enough. Some of us are selfish and that's not a good thing in any relationship. Relationships require work and to not simply grow, because your being yourself. This list states some things that should be done to make your relationship hopefully better at least from your side of it, but if you have a person on the other side who believes in that "being my self" and doesn't give back then your relationship won't work,unless the giving person puts up with your selfishness. In that case your relationship isn't working it's surviving. Baking a good cake requires following the recipe that made a great cake to start with. Throgh in some selfishness, don't give a damn, come to me, and unwillingness to change, your cake gets baked, but it may fall and if not it taste bad.

## Post 15 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Tuesday, 13-Mar-2007 16:17:30

Agreed, sure, you should be yourself, but you should also be willing to compromise a little bit, jsut like baking a cake the ingredients ahve to blend. So in a sense, the two of you should blend ni a way, the two of you should grow together, explore and read each other.

## Post 16 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Tuesday, 13-Mar-2007 17:37:50

Believe me I've been in a relationship where I did all the giving and he did all the taking. He was a selfish bastard, and all I got out of it was a complete loss of self-respect. Once I got it back I have made sure never to date anyone who didn't believe in give and take again.

## Post 17 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 17-Mar-2007 15:27:16

Its a good list, but i think it will still depend on ths situation and the person. Well, sometimes even though you do all these things on the list, if a guy doesn't feel the same, he will never give in. I think the best way that works for everyone is just being your self. all right then
laugh out loud people
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