# How do you get over a break up after a long relationship?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by saiyan4414 (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Thursday, 24-Feb-2005 15:25:46

I've just been broken up with by my girlfriend of a little over 7 months what do you guys do in a situation like this cause I need some advice or you can just write your thoughts

## Post 2 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Thursday, 24-Feb-2005 15:48:18

Well there are no easy answers, break-ups are never easy, even if they were inevitable, and the longer the relationship, the harder the break up, but all you can do is look back at the good times you had together, not dwell on it though, but it takes time, and with time comes acceptance, and once you have gained acceptance, you can look to the future, good luck and keep smiling

## Post 3 by asdfghjkl (Account disabled) on Thursday, 24-Feb-2005 17:51:24

Tony, there's some things that there's nothing you can do but pray and wait. Yes, I know you've asked me many a time, and I've told you the same thing many a time, and it's prolly not what you wanna hear, but like I said, there's just some things that we can do nothing about; we have no control of them, so we must pray and wait. We must pray for acceptance of what God is planning, understanding, and faith. That's what I've done when I've been in dire situations like these.

## Post 4 by GreenTurtle (Music is life. Love. Vitality.) on Thursday, 24-Feb-2005 19:35:15

Well, a situation like that is never easy. Just hope it works out that you'll be friends sometime in the future, but I was told that my x-boyfriend is a "faggot" for remaining friends with me after we broke up, but trust me...if the circumstances of the breakup itself aren't too ugly, then you have a good chance. Good luck

## Post 5 by Jess227 on Thursday, 24-Feb-2005 20:16:01

Yup the shorter the relationship the somewhat easier to get over. The longer the relationship, the tougher it is. But there is no easy way of things. I dated one guy for 8 months and that was hard enough and I didn't date til 3 years later. Then relationship #2 was a on/off one and those are relationships you need to stay away from. relationship #3 was the shortest and kind of hard to get over. But with Guy #3 we do talk on a friendly basis but I wouldn't say we're friends or boyfriend/girlfriend. But let me say this though and this is my opinion: Having a relationship turn friendship is very hard to maintain. Especially if there are hard feelings and all still on the table. Or when the ex decides to take your place or do something horrible to your friend like vandalize your property or something, you might start showing over protectiveness and that can be annoying. The right person will come to you, just let the person come to you and you not try so hard.

## Post 6 by Puggle (I love my life!) on Friday, 25-Feb-2005 3:35:44

time mate, time heals all just give it time.

## Post 7 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Friday, 25-Feb-2005 5:41:52

agree with everyone here. time is the answer, it really is! We all know how hard it is. but remember, everything that's happened to you happens for a reason, to prepare you for future. Give it time, and I'm sure you will be able to remain friends. just let it go now and try and stay occupied/keep your mind busy!

## Post 8 by Leafs Fan (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Friday, 25-Feb-2005 7:58:13

Time heals all, as someone once told me. Also, a lot of sad country music has always been my strategy, although some people think that is self-defeating.

## Post 9 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 25-Feb-2005 8:23:27

look after and indugle yourself take time to think about no1 yes it sounds selfish but after a break up there is a period of grieving for what you have lost,so while I'm not advocating that you wallow in the negative feelings...christ Al get to the point..grin.just concentrate on your happiness and surround yourself with good positive people.

## Post 10 by wildebrew (We promised the world we'd tame it, what were we hoping for?) on Friday, 25-Feb-2005 10:32:50

Hmm, ok, the things you should not do:
1. Get into another relationship right away (rebound). You may suddenly develop feelings for someone even overnight, but it's most likely that someone is just taking your gf's place. Give it 2 to 3 months, possibly more, before you allow yourself to get involved in another relationship. If you found someone you have feelings for work on friendship and don't move it to that next level until you feel you like that person for her own merits, not because you want to be with someone and your ex's role in your life needs to be taken over.
2. Enjoy it .. many people say being single was the most fun time in their lives, even if they're happily married, you can do whatever you want, you're not responsible to anyone, it's fun, not advocating you go do drugs or sleep with anyone you want, your morals should still apply but just enjoy the freedom of it, you'll find someone later and, heck, might even be stu ck with ath person for the rst of your life so enjoy it while you can be #1 love in your life.
3. Don't get bitter and angry. It's so easy to get bitter and angry and mad and start hating and feeling evengful. That will hurt you more than it hurts the other person and it will take all the beautiful moments and positivity out of what you experienced, don't allow yourself to be overtaking by that bitterness. The very first days, ok, I can understand, but in the long run, no, don't do it.
cheers
-B

## Post 11 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 26-Feb-2005 8:15:25

man so many do's and dont's it sounds more like a rule book than advice..and the mention of drugs ect that was needless,

## Post 12 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 21-Apr-2005 1:08:55

Move on, have some fun, hang out as friends. it will help lessen the pain, i think or if your mad at each other, find something productive to do, that can help you forget that person. any hobby in mind will do.