# advice on how I can establish a really good relationship with my girlfriend

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by Jamie (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 16:07:49

Hello there.
I would like some advice on how I can establish a really good relathionship with my girlfriend. What she and I want to do is try to make it a bit different than others I've heard about. We don't really want to fight, argue, or carry on because that could solve a lot of problems. If ever things go wong, I wonder how she and I can work it out in a good way.
Jamie

## Post 2 by Luce (Zone BBS Addict) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 16:20:03

My advice, first and foremost, is to talk, and be open and honest with each other. About everything. I know it might seem a bit much, but it really is the best way, and is the major key to the foundations of a good relationship. With open-ness and honesty comes trust, and if you work hard enough to build these up, then you;ll find your relationship has a very strong foundation, from which you can work together to go through and overcome anything and everything. Me and my girlfriend are open and honest with each other about everything, and it works amazingly well for us! We've been together just over a year now, and it gets stronger every day! I hope this is of some use to you! And good luck!!! Lucy -x-

## Post 3 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 16:41:58

Try to be aware of your mood and agree to give each other space if one of you is in a bad mood. Stupid fights over nothing can start just because one partner had a bad day at work or school or whatever. Also, a friend once told me this tip she got from some book on relationships works for her and her husband. When they do have a serious discussion that is likely to lead to a fight, they sit together and hold hands or touch in some way. The physical contact makes it less likely that either one will say anything too hurtful.

## Post 4 by Jamie (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 18:31:43

Thanks guys. I'll try my best. As you know, it's really not good to fight and carry on because it can really lead to serious problems. That's how a lot of divoorces have come around. All because of that. I'll do my best, so thanks again.

## Post 5 by Wraith (Prince of Chaos) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 19:32:24

lol... I'll give the ultimate advice for having a good relationship without ever fighting: break up now and just be friends. Trust me, it works.

## Post 6 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 19:41:55

How about you just be your self, and if you two make it through the countless blunders and fuck-ups that are bound to happen it's meant to be! TO me something is wrong when you always have to work at the relationship, and you should get the hell out.

## Post 7 by Harp (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Friday, 28-Oct-2005 22:50:12

the thing is there isn't any such thing as a perfect relationship. you guy's are bound to have your ups and downs just like any couple. that's just natural and to be expected. the key to a good relationship is how you handle things after fights. don't let them linger on. if you have fights sort it out as quickly as possible. also remember that people say things that they don't necessarily mean when they are fighting so try and give yourself space when you need it. that can help put perspective on things.
anyway that's my thoughts for what the are worth! lol. good luck.

## Post 8 by Luce (Zone BBS Addict) on Sunday, 30-Oct-2005 9:11:58

It is impractical to say that you never have to work at good relationships, because that just isn't the case! Good relationships require a hell of a lot of work and effort. I don't mean a feeling that you're constantly battling, cos that isn't the case, but most definetely work! You get out of a relationship, what you put into it! Good relationships need to be nurtured, and focused on continually. Things go badly wrong if you take things for granted, and assume this and that about your relationship, without working on it. And just because sometimes you have to work harder than others, doesn't mean you should get the hell out! If we're only there for the smooth and not the rough, you can hardly call it a relationship!