# The Difference between a Girl and a Woman

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 16-Dec-2010 17:51:41

This is from something I read. I added a little bit of my words to it.
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time ( I.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends!
Girls think a guy crying is weak. Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that was just one man. Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.
Look for these things in a woman... the lack thereof would define her as a girl... age is irrelevant as long as she is over 18.
Conflict resolution skills
Concerned with meeting yor needs
Able to articulate her needs in a mature way
Responsible to keep a job and fulfill normal adult obligations
Has her priorities in line
Isn't overly emotional or overly cold
Isn't needy - she wants you but doesn't need you
Doesn't keep a man around for what he can do for her

## Post 2 by starfly (99956) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 6:16:30

hell ya!!! I am married and see some of the girl trates in my wife. It drives me up the wall. Shoot some times when I am unhappy I just need to bee left alone nt asked 21 questions. When I want to talk wel... I will go back to her and talk. Sorry did not ment to use this board to vent.

## Post 3 by contradiction (aww, I always knew my opinion mattered to you!) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 6:53:13

umm ... well, i sort of think this is a stereotypical statement, because although i am a girl, i agree with many of the woman things. as to the spending time with friends, why not? that'd piss me off if someone was like that. your friends can be closer than your significant other and family, and friends are always there, well, your true friends, that is. and for the men crying thing, i think that when a man cries, it shows he's a man, a strong man, so yes, i'd offer a shoulder, comfort, and a box of tissues. damn, why would i wanna make my man come home. ugh, horrible thought. i'd have him want 2 come home at his own will; making him would kind of force the relationship.
for now, i'll leave it at this. :)

## Post 4 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 10:54:13

I agree with most of this, except the age part. Personally, I wouldn't say grown woman as opposed to "girl". I know some forty-year-old "girls", and some fifteen-year-old "women", by this logic. Other than that, it's just about spot on. Also, men have been known to do things like this, too. Not all men, of course, but some. Iether way, whether you're fifteen, or forty-five, I would say this to you if you exhibited these "girl" behaviors: Move on, get over your insecurities, and realize you're not the only person who has wants/needs.

## Post 5 by guitargod1 (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 16:39:25

Yeah, age is just a number really. I've met some eighteen year old females that are more level headed and mature than some i've met who are thirty four. It can work both ways though, for either gender.

## Post 6 by contradiction (aww, I always knew my opinion mattered to you!) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 21:13:34

well said, jessica. :)

## Post 7 by rebelwoman (Account disabled) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 22:52:04

Yes I agree with Ocean dream. As long as you've got your head together, you can be a woman at 14 easy. Ain't very many of 'em, but I sure as hell know I fit the "grown woman" bill by the time I was 16. As for my younger sister, who is 23 ... well, she might as well be 12.

## Post 8 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Friday, 17-Dec-2010 23:47:57

girls seem to have all the answers, grown women are not afraid to say I don't know.

## Post 9 by contradiction (aww, I always knew my opinion mattered to you!) on Saturday, 18-Dec-2010 7:50:44

agreed, rebelwoman. and to tear drop, well, honestly, again, stereotyping. as i am now, i really am more of what is being described here as a woman" according to these characteristics, and as for my 32 year old aunt? she might as well be 16.

## Post 10 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Saturday, 18-Dec-2010 9:11:39

as has been said here, age is simply a number.
I'm told I'm wise beyond my years at 23, and the 43 year old woman who gave birth to me might as well be 12.

## Post 11 by forereel (Just posting.) on Monday, 20-Dec-2010 22:30:35

Love this and understood the 18 part. It's the law in most states.

## Post 12 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2010 10:18:26

For those of you who are really caught up in this whole under 18 verses over 18 thing, answer this question for me if you will: Why eighteen? why not twenty? Why not seventeen? Why not twenty-five? Why not sixteen? What is about the number of years you've been alive that makes you mature. If you live under a rock and don't bother learning from the experiences that are part of life, will you still be mature at twenty-five? If you're sixteen, have traveled the world, experienced more than most people that age, and most importantly, learned to take every experience for what it's worth, isn't it fair to say that you'll be more mature than many/most sixteen-year-olds?

## Post 13 by forereel (Just posting.) on Tuesday, 21-Dec-2010 11:28:23

The Jews and many other cultures believe a person is adult and has learned all they will learn about life and will start making choices based on that at age 12 for girls and 13 for boys. A birl can marry a man of any age after her 12th birthday. In some states culture aside that age is 14, or 16. The issue comes in to play when you have to add upbringing in to the mix, beliefs, and such, so the law sets 18 as the age due to most people being experienced enough to decide. That doesn't always work of course, but if you need men for your army, and you need them medically strong, then biologically 18 is about the age they are fully developed, so 18. Smile. That is my thoughts anway, and I'll bet it pretty close to why 18.

## Post 14 by rebelwoman (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 22-Dec-2010 17:49:16

Thank you much Jessica for making sense :)
The law is the law, yes. But the written law has zilch to do with state of mind. Just kuz a girl is too young to drink legally doesn't mean she ain't mature. I didn't majically become mature when my birth certificate proved I was 18. I became mature on my own account.
Oh, and the real reason that the legal age to drink is 21 in most states is because by the age of 21, your skull is fully developed. At 18 you deal with wisdom teeth. Silly shit like that has the biggest part in legal ages.
Jessie

## Post 15 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Thursday, 23-Dec-2010 11:20:31

america is, I believe, the only country where the legal age isn't until 21. Most other countries have the age set at eighteen, nineteen, and even sixteen and seventeen in some places.
Also, the idea that everyone's skull is developed by 21 is a load of bull shit. I'm not saying you think that, in fact, I thank you for sharing that piece of information, but I know someone who just got their wisdom teeth out at 26, and other people who have got them out at sixteen, so just like mental maturation, physical development is individual.

## Post 16 by rebelwoman (Account disabled) on Thursday, 23-Dec-2010 16:48:25

Yeah 21 is the most common age when your skull is fully developed, and 18 is when most people get wisdom teeth. I think it's all generalized. Thanks fore clarifying.

## Post 17 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Thursday, 23-Dec-2010 17:33:45

yeah, no problem, and like I said, it's the philosophy that's bull shit, not the fact that you said it here. Lol.

## Post 18 by Lisa's Girl forever (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Thursday, 17-Feb-2011 16:21:58

ok. i agree. with everything said.

## Post 19 by Izzito (This site is so "educational") on Friday, 18-Feb-2011 1:21:24

but u forgot to smile
lol

## Post 20 by Thunderstorm (HotIndian!) on Friday, 18-Feb-2011 1:28:58

o come on? smile, now? hahahah.
there may be difference with every individuals. but they just keep an average age after experimenting with many age group. I think this is how they also come to a conclusion for deciding the general result of new inventions too. such as scientific inventions, pills and so on.
Raaj.

## Post 21 by CrystalSapphire (Uzuri uongo ndani) on Friday, 18-Feb-2011 8:30:56

age is just a number...

## Post 22 by rebelwoman (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 02-Mar-2011 18:47:28

Idfk why they asume that 18 is a mature age. When I was 18, I was easily the most obnoctious, immature person that I have ever come across. Ok, maybe that's overdramatic, but still. Lol, people mature at different ages. That's why so many people get in deep shit at different ages. There can be a 19 year old who is 10 times as level-headed as a 45 year old, and vice versa. So, that being said, a woman can be a real woman at any age. It all depends on how they were raised, who they hang out with, their beliefs, their morals, etc etc.
Jessie

## Post 23 by TechnologyUser2012 (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Thursday, 03-Mar-2011 18:48:10

A girl is someone who makes the same mistakes over and over, a woman is someone who learns from her mistakes.
I agree with the last post... there is no way I could say that I was mature at 18. I grew up with an immature, irresponsible mother, so I didn't really mature until I moved out and got my own apartment. Becoming mature is a process that takes time... its not going to just magically happen on your 18th birthday.

## Post 24 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Friday, 04-Mar-2011 10:41:51

I totally agree. It all depends how much you've been through, and how you choose to handle it.

## Post 25 by preiman790 (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 04-Mar-2011 14:38:28

i agree that age and how it pertains to maturity is largely relative but you do need an avarage you can't make a law based on relative facts 18 is a good average and there has to be some law keeping a 40 year old from going after a 14 year old as to the drinking age the federal government forst most of the states to change from 18 to 21 by threatening to withhold money for road repairs if they did not change it, there is however a movement trieing to have that moved back to 18 under the asumption that students are drinking at 18 and the law just forces them to keep it hidden. they state that if the age was lowered back to 18 they could go to bars and places like that and cases of alcohol poisoning would drop dramaticly because the drinking would be observed

## Post 26 by rebelwoman (Account disabled) on Friday, 11-Mar-2011 18:38:28

You know what I say? I say you should be considered legal when you move out of your parents' house. Say I! lol, it's a good idea, though, seriously. Kuz once you move out, get a job, get a place, generally you're mature, right?
Jessie

## Post 27 by preiman790 (Generic Zoner) on Sunday, 13-Mar-2011 5:42:49

the problem with that is who decides when you can move out?

## Post 28 by rebelwoman (Account disabled) on Sunday, 13-Mar-2011 19:16:35

Let's say you're kicked out by your parents. Then you're not legal because you're obviously immature and they can put you in a correctional center or something. If you're emancipated, well ... yu get it. lol, I'm a simple mind.
Jessie

## Post 29 by CrystalSapphire (Uzuri uongo ndani) on Friday, 18-Mar-2011 9:41:10

well said jesse.