# Change

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 12-Jul-2005 16:49:16

Hello did this ever happened to you, when you were together with someone he/she was all cool, and you both were in good vibes. But when you both break up he/she starts to change into a totally different person. Because one of my friend had a boyfriend and she was asking an advice to me. Because after they broke up her x boyfriend turns from a nice guy to a jerk. And she told him that she barely recognizes his attitude. So, tell me why do guys change after a break ups?

## Post 2 by SingerOfSongs (Heresy and apostasy is how progress is made.) on Tuesday, 12-Jul-2005 20:33:04

I haven't seen it happen, though I've heard of such. Sometimes it's because the person wasn't showing their true selves. Sometimes I think it's because the person after a break up is seeing the real person. But sometimes I think it's because the break up was traumatic enough that it effects their personallity.

## Post 3 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 13-Jul-2005 17:58:18

so from someone nice its possible to be someone irritating or a totally different person. hmm thats sad.

## Post 4 by Japanimangel (Account disabled) on Thursday, 14-Jul-2005 18:21:22

sometimes people go through cycles in their lives, they develop and additude and then it just goes away. I've also heard of this happening as well

## Post 5 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 14-Jul-2005 19:57:14

does it have something to do with the break up? or is it possible to change that person back to like what he/she was before.

## Post 6 by Summer Breeze (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 14-Jul-2005 21:06:07

Hi wow okay let me tell you a story I had this best best best guy friend he was THE greatest person I've ever met. I liked him alot when we first met and he liked me too. three years later we I guess fell in love and it was great I loved every mintune of it. Actually we had sex and a few monthes later we broke up. I dont relly know why buwe did then last year and the year before all we did was fight I felt hurt and betrayed cause he wasnt acting like my bestfriend anymore he took a total change especally this year after he got a new gf. He lost all his frends I tried to get him to keep me as his friend but it just didnt work no matter what. so he graduated this year and we were barley accuantaces&GT;we shook hands like we were never bestfriends and I left to go home. HVENT TALKED TO HIM SINCE NONE OF HIS OLD FRIENDS DO so yea it sucks it hurts and its horrible.

## Post 7 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 15-Jul-2005 10:15:24

Hey same here, were together for a short while and I love every moment that we spent. He was okay but right after the break up he change. As in really changed. I don’t even know if friendships might work because his too distant. I tried to hang out with him but this time theres something different about him. He changed into someone I don’t recognize. I was just asking friendship and he wanted to go our separate ways. So I guess this will end that way. I hate losing a friend.

## Post 8 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 15-Jul-2005 10:21:02

True_one I think the break ups are a real insult to the male ego they just cannot handle rejection...its fine for the men when they finish with a woman..but just let her try to do the same ..most men are little boys in overgrown bodies...personally I think there should be equality in a relationship and I have had 2 instances where women have taken the upper hand and it didn't bother me...

## Post 9 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 15-Jul-2005 10:43:13

Hey, I agree but we broke up at the same time like even though we had some strong feelings for each other. We both decided to break up because it’s the right thing to do. And it the break up never about our relationship it was about my parents letting me chose between college or him. You may think its stupid but this is how strict my parents are with me. Well its just really sad because I miss the old person that I fell in love with and now his a totally different guy I don’t even know what had happened. I just wish I have him back as good friends. I know were friends but its just to soon to end. I don’t like having no communication with someone whom I known for even a short while. maybe i should give him time to figure some stuff.

## Post 10 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 15-Jul-2005 10:51:32

Ok but he's still smarting from the break up and his ego is still bruised, also some guys act like complete eejits to hide how they really feel regarding the break up..women/girls tend to be more honest with their feelings, where as guys, are taught to hide or disguise how they really feel inside...

## Post 11 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 16-Jul-2005 13:31:19

hey i agree with you, its like a book that is so hard to open. i need a key its locked i think. but thats how i see it. it does not want to be bothered. its fine with me.

## Post 12 by starfly (99956) on Sunday, 17-Jul-2005 6:02:02

Hi, I need to say something to this topic. I am a guy you ladies are talking about who has changed do to a brake-up. However my x-wife was very abusive and controlling. I have sense become up front, a person who lays his feelings out on the table and takes crap from know one. This happen because of my passed brake-up.