# Moving in with partner

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Tuesday, 29-Dec-2009 6:56:37

Hi guys, I kinda never thought I'd write on these boards again, but I could probably do with some feedback from anyone who has taken the step of moving in with their partner.
My boyfriend recently asked me to move in with him, and I agreed. I've never ever done this before as I've not even been in many relationships so this is so new to me, and though I'm excited, I've also really started to think about how much of a change it will be for me.
I've lived in my own place for coming up to eight nears next month, so I'm fine with the independence aspect, but it's all about what to take. Obviously he's got his own everything pretty much, (he's eight years older than me, so has been on his own forever).
Where does one start with what to bring? The sad thing is, my computer was like the very first thing I thought of that absolutely had to come with me, Lol! (he's got a puter, but nothing is better than using your own puter). Also as he doesn't have the internet currently, I'll be bringing my wifi router and I'm thinking I'd be in charge of finding an ISP and/or keeping my existing one at the new location.
I've also obviously got my own washing machine, fridge and lounge suite that I'd say i wouldn't need to bring, so whether that can be stored somewhere and eventually sold .. who knows.
Also, another issue (and this is what we discussed tonight), is that I live about ten mins by car away from my parents, so they're very much use to me being in the area. My b/f lives about an hour away by car, (two by public transport). How did your families react if you also moved away from them? Even though I'm the oldest child, I've kinda always been "Daddy's little girl" probably largely because of our similar interests right from when I was a child.
My sister, who is now engaged, has been in a relationship for about eight years, and recently went to live with him fulltime. As far as I know, dad accepted this pretty well, but I'm kind of thinking it's going to be a tad harder for him to accept my situation; partly because of what I explained above, but probably also because I'm blind, (I'm speculating only; i totally don't have a clue).
It's these reasons that's leading me to my final dilemma. He's been working in Dubai for the past two years now. He is currently home for christmas break, but will be unfortunately needing to leave again on the 8th, to be returning permanently in June (as hhis contract is up). I'm still not sure when exactly I'll be officially moving in, but chances are it could be around April, May or June. For a few reasons, the boy and I haven't yet told anyone of our plans and are not likely to before Dad goes back to Dubai. My issue is that I don't think i should spring the news that I'm moving on him while he's still over there. Boy doesn't think it will be any different from telling him here, but I can't help thinking it will make a big deal of difference. But on the other hand, if I was to tell Dad while he is in Dubai, he may possibly have the chance to accept and get use to the news before he comes home in June, and then be more willing to offer to help me move.
At this stage, I'm thinking he'll probably want to help me; not that it matters if he doesn't, but my feeling is that he will. But yeh, as I say, I just can't help thinking springing the news on him while he's halfway around the world may not be the fairest thing to do. What do you think i should do?
Any insight into the previous portion of this post would be much appreciated too. Was it hard for you to decide what to take? did you tend to go through some of your things and chuck stuff out?
Thanks; sorry if some of this didn't make sense; there's just so much to think about.
Cheers for now! :)

## Post 2 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Tuesday, 29-Dec-2009 17:13:13

urm, eight years I meant; typing sucks when one is tired. :)