# dating ideas, guidelines and rules.

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by season (the invisible soul) on Saturday, 16-Oct-2004 13:32:08

4 love rules
1. Never disparage your partner.
most people in relationships are usually looking to return to "that feeling" you have when you first fall in love. the
loss of this feeling comes from each partner losing the respect they had for the other when they first met. Remember your love will NOT be perfect, but
that doesn't mean they don't deserve your respect and love. Don't try to make your partner "better." You loved them exactly the way they were when you
first met them. Don't let time change that.]
2. Never let your partner disparage you.
Personal integrity is valuable asset. Lose that and you lose your identity as a being. Everyone deserves to be treated with value and love. If you have
a partner who doesn't respect you, talk to them about it. Let them know how you feel. If it's not something they are willing to change... find someone
else. It may not seem like it now but you'll be happier in the long run.
3. Keep your romance alive.
Contrary to popular opinion, romance doesn't just exist. After some period of time you do have to put in effort to keep it alive. It doesn't have to be
much. In fact, the most romantic people I know just take the time to do the little things to make their partner feel special. Make a commitment to do something
romantic at least every day. Remember, even taking the time to really listen to how your partner's day went can be considered romantic!
4. Always be honest.
Nothing can damage a relationship more than dishonesty, even white lies. In every case, honesty is the best policy. This also means... don't put yourself
in situations you feel the need to lie about. Relationships are built on trust. Once broken it's very difficult to rebuild. Avoid, at any cost, falling
into this trap.

## Post 2 by season (the invisible soul) on Saturday, 16-Oct-2004 13:35:17

First Date Guidelines
First dates can be incredibly tricky and nerve-wracking. It is therefore very important to establish in your own mind what you expect from the date beforehand.
The first thing you should decide is whether you are looking for a serious relationship or just some fun and companionship. If the latter is the case then
make sure you let the other person know as early as possible. Do not string them along thinking that a serious relationship is a possibility when in fact
it is the furthest thing from your mind.
Establish the ground rules as to what you will or will not do prior to the date. For example, if you do not want to sleep with your date, then do not allow
yourself be placed in a position where that might happen.
Another thing that you need to decide before you go out on your first date is how much you are willing to reveal about yourself. There maybe certain incidents
in your past that could cause your date to develop pre-conceived ideas about you, before they even really get to know you. While you do not want to appear
cold and reveal little about yourself, you also do not want to overwhelm your date with too much information.
If your date is arranging everything, be careful and ensure that you know exactly where your date is taking you or planning to take you. Make sure you have
a backup way of getting home if things do not go well. If possible, arrange to meet in a public place that you are familiar with, and do not forget to
take your cell-phone, or change for a payphone in case of an emergency.
The important thing to remember is to have fun on your date and do not expect too much. After all, what is a first date other than a fun way to get to know
one another, and to explore the possibilities of developing a strong and lasting relationship?

## Post 3 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Wednesday, 17-Jun-2009 1:21:31

I have another to add
A lot of people need this one
Be blunt and forward, tell them how you feel
If you don't like something say it, no matter how bad it feels for either party. This will prevent, anger, stress, tears, and fights.

## Post 4 by season (the invisible soul) on Wednesday, 17-Jun-2009 1:29:23

hahahaha, i got shock when i see my own board post up there, after, hmm nearly 5 years. lol *giggles*

## Post 5 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Wednesday, 17-Jun-2009 1:44:32

I've been digging in the rubbish, it's fun...! Do you agree with what I said?