# Domination or submission?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by DeviousAngel (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 18:44:14

ok... sorry my computer gave me some sort of a thing telling me msn wanted to close... so my post got cut off... but now back to the question.
Are you a dominate pr a submissive... if your a dom... then why did you choose to be... if you a sub... then why did you choose to be... if not... then what turns you off about trying this type of a relationship?
I personally am a sub... and what made me want to be a sub is the art of serving someone... the knowing that your giving that person everything they need. Your cooking there food... making there coffee... your pleasuring them... and you aren't just using your body to do so.
Hope to hear more about what you all think.

## Post 2 by frequency (the music man) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 22:57:46

i'm both, because I enjoy giving as well as receiving.

## Post 3 by jmbauer (Technology's great until it stops working.) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 23:00:20

Well, since I date Klingons... What choice do I have, really?

## Post 4 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 23:15:17

LOL Jim.
I am also both I think. I like being a bit of a dom at times, but I also love pleasing my partner. Although I would never get into extremes regarding being a dom or a sub.

## Post 5 by jmbauer (Technology's great until it stops working.) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 23:18:22

On a serious note, I agree with Becky and Blake.

## Post 6 by Grace (I've now got the ggold prolific poster award! wahoo! well done to me!) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 23:22:08

...interesting comments made by Mr. Frequency...

## Post 7 by guitargod1 (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 31-Aug-2006 23:53:15

It depends on the person and the situation as well as my mood. I usually like to dominate though. Although I like to be in control, I love to please the girl as well.

## Post 8 by BB (move over school!) on Friday, 01-Sep-2006 1:04:45

I like to please the girl. I am quiet so it is harder for me to be a dom person.

## Post 9 by Twinklestar09 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Friday, 01-Sep-2006 2:17:17

I think I'd be more submissive, as I wouldn't mind doing things for my guy and am not used to asking too much of others in the first place. But I don't think I'd actually get into the actual lifestyle, as I would not like/want to be given orders all the time and would rather be treated as an equal. I might probably try it out during a relationship, but would not want to have a relationship based on that. In other words, in a relationship in general I'd do that on my own because I wanted to but not because I was expected to by him.

## Post 10 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Friday, 01-Sep-2006 6:56:57

Well said tinkerbell. That's exactly how I feel. I understand there are people who live that lifestyle 24/7, but for me, I would be submissive or dominant if my very special partner asked me to once in awhile, but if he got way too into that lifestyle, that is not a relationship I would stay in.

## Post 11 by bermuda-triangulese (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Friday, 01-Sep-2006 7:30:58

I'm slightly dominent, but only if the girl wanted it and understood the spirit in which it was meant. I kind of like any girl that I'm with to be able to say, fuck off, I'm not doing it you're being an ass, every once and a while but if she enjoyed and was pleased by my being dominent, I would now and again.

## Post 12 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 01-Sep-2006 8:39:24

We believe in and practise equality, as one partner assuming dominance over another, just causes resentment which could lead to abuse.

## Post 13 by Nem (I just keep on posting!) on Friday, 01-Sep-2006 12:15:45

Well, there was this one time in band camp and this girl stuck a, um, nevermind.

## Post 14 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 02-Sep-2006 8:08:18

Hmm hmm go on we'er all agog

## Post 15 by lights_rage (I just keep on posting!) on Saturday, 02-Sep-2006 8:16:17

I could care less for either one i am an equal in other words i am more in too equality

## Post 16 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 02-Sep-2006 8:26:50

I agree Jenni anyone who says I like to be in control, should be avoided like the plague.

## Post 17 by Star (Honorary Bitch of the Zone) on Sunday, 03-Sep-2006 18:32:12

hahaha dragonfire you stole the line from the American pie movie! Star PS better to avoid trumpets!

## Post 18 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Wednesday, 13-Sep-2006 4:39:45

I think domination, and, or submition can be expressed with the body rather than words.
Gentle but firm is best.
In this way, it can be enjoyable for both partners.

## Post 19 by guitargod1 (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 13-Sep-2006 21:26:11

Yes, I agree totally.

## Post 20 by maddog (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Wednesday, 13-Sep-2006 22:07:49

with me, it would be total domination! Oh yes! Who is your jedi master daddy!?
then again, sometimes, it is okay to be dominated rather than doing the dominating. It depends I guess, what mood the couple is in.

## Post 21 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Thursday, 14-Sep-2006 2:22:10

Oh yes,!!!! Ather!!!
I'm your Jedi Master Daddy!!!!!
lol!!!!

## Post 22 by DancingAfterDark (I just keep on posting!) on Thursday, 14-Sep-2006 14:50:31

I would never want to practice the lifestyle either way, as my preference varies with my mood and too much of either one can get tiring. However, generally speaking, I prefer the guy to be dominant, unless I'm in an especially bitchy mood and need an outlet for it. But again, it should all be kept in context and not taken to extremes.

## Post 23 by maddog (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 14-Sep-2006 20:04:00

and don't you ever forget it, Crystal rain!

## Post 24 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Thursday, 14-Sep-2006 20:13:40

That's right Crystal Rain put the battarys in that vibrating light saber and make sure maddog can't sit for weeks.

## Post 25 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Thursday, 14-Sep-2006 20:15:34

I can never be a dom, how can a person be a document object model? Oh and last time I checked I can't be a sub either, my body just isn't designed to contain the necessary information to be executed as a subroutine in a computer program.

## Post 26 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Friday, 15-Sep-2006 2:42:05

Ather, I won't soon forget it, and what I ment to say was that you, were my Jedi master daddy!!!!!
Now, who's your baby mamma!!!!!?

## Post 27 by maddog (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Friday, 15-Sep-2006 17:53:41

er, any girl that I'd like to have relations with, I certainly would not call my baby mother...afterall, calling a girl anything with the word "mother" with it, is just wrong.

## Post 28 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Sunday, 17-Sep-2006 3:33:23

I get it, at least I kno where I stand.
sarcastic smile