# where i stand on relationships

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by SmoothSongstress (Account disabled) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 1:19:31

well, i'm not very experinced in the sexual and generally in the relationship department. but i have decided some things for sure. the person i date will have to be honest with me and a down-to-earth person, who has opinions. i think it doesn't really matter the gender of the person you grow fond of, in a dating aspect. he/she has to b honest, as i said, down-to-earth, funny, hopefully musical and open-minded about musical genres. I'd like them to b somewhat more skilled at communicating than i am, and that isn't because i'm lazy about it, but so i don't completely fuck up the relationship. i don't want this person to be overly-sexual, as in having only sex on their mind 24/7. i want this person to also have ways for me to contact, have a steady phone number and skype would be very nice. i am not putting this up here to sell myself; rather just to express how I want my partner to be. also, i'd like to point out that I do not want a partner who treats me inferior to him/her. I've had plenty of experience with controlling sort of people, and i'm not going back there. so, here's where i stand as far as relationships.

## Post 2 by write away (The Zone's Blunt Object) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 1:28:59

Shouldn't this be on the single's swap board? seems to me you're looking for a potential partner. And besides, you say you want to be with someone who communicates better than yourself because you don't want ot fuck up a relationship with your lack of communication skills... Well, I hate to break it to you, but a relationship fails if communication isn inadequit on either side. One person who communicates well will not overcompensate for the other's poor communication skills.
Just thought I'd throw that in.

## Post 3 by Meglet (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 1:33:58

I second that one, Bernadetta. I've been there and believe me, you both hahve to be good at it.

## Post 4 by The ecuadorian gentleman (Generic Zoner) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 3:13:11

this should be in the ingles board, i do agree with that. and it does take two people to comunicate. 50 50 all the way i think. but its a good post it shows you deffinetly know what you want

## Post 5 by SmoothSongstress (Account disabled) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 3:25:30

so shoot me. i'll take it down if i can. sorry

## Post 6 by forereel (Just posting.) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 12:14:10

Smile. Just ask Anthony to move it for you. No big deal.

## Post 7 by Meglet (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 12:47:40

Yeah, don't worry about it; people post topics in the wrong categories quite often.

## Post 8 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 12:50:54

it seems to me like the OP is looking for a friend, not an actual relationship.

## Post 9 by Shepherdwolf (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 15:18:44

Also, I daresay that it doesn't exactly have to be 50-50 in the communication department...depending on how you view it, at least. If by communication you mean how articulate you are, what sorts of words you use, and how often you open your mouth, then it absolutely doesn't have to be even, so long as (and I cannot stress this eenugh) you're both happy with the state of things and getting yourself heard. People who talk well, or talk a lot, often end up with the quieter ones. I myself am definitely more the talkative type, and I'm always afraid I'm going to steamroll someone more quiet. It almost never happens though, as I've had the good fortune of finding a partner who, while she may say less than I do, has no problem getting a word in edgewise and getting her point across.
All that having been said, though, communication in general is key. If you are actively bad at getting your point across and you hope that your partner will somehow cover for this, it won't happen. If you're painfully shy, so shy that you clam up and won't talk or open to a partner, then it also won't work. All depends on what you mean.

## Post 10 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Tuesday, 04-Jun-2013 17:09:35

apologies for my post in this topic. I meant to put it on the other topic the OP created.