# Older or younger.

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Saturday, 09-Apr-2005 23:20:53

I like guys that are older than I, but I have friends who are eighteen and are dating a fifteen year-old guy. I think that's nasty, but that's just me. The reason why I think this is because most fifteen year-old boys are kind of immature. I like guys that are more mature than I am. I didn't mean to offend anyone. I just want you to know what you think.

## Post 2 by Flidais (WISEST IS SHE WHO KNOWS THAT SHE DOES NOT KNOW) on Saturday, 09-Apr-2005 23:57:54

I like my guys my same age or older, but like not more than like 5 years older.

## Post 3 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 0:10:58

Here's something weird, I don't like it when adults like 20 or older date 13 or 15 year olds but if they are 20 or 21 and they date a 30 year old I'm fine with that. I think it's the dating the minor thing if you are an adult.
Troy

## Post 4 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 0:38:14

yep someone older for me generally. there could be exceptions though. I think i can be kinda young for my age, and I've known younger people to be as mature as me or if not more! .. all depends really on the person.

## Post 5 by Puggle (I love my life!) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 2:18:40

older blokes

## Post 6 by KC8PNL (The best criticism of the bad is the practice of the better.) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 3:16:57

It's the maturity that counts, not a cronological number.

## Post 7 by Telemachus (Death: the destroyer of worlds.) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 3:41:11

Well said KC, well said!!

## Post 8 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 9:03:06

older or younger as long as the younger guy had the maturity to handle the convoluted aspects of a relationship..

## Post 9 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 12:29:53

age aint nothing but a number, its how mature the person is that counts.

## Post 10 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 17:45:21

I see the point, but so far, I haven't met a younger guy that's as mature enough for me to date them. I mean, I'll hang out with them. I will even be friends, but starting a relationship with them is a definate no.

## Post 11 by clarice_starling (Account disabled) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 18:14:09

I can be crazy, but I tend to be attracted by guys who r younger than me or at least seem to be for some reasons (the voice or something). I dont even know y, and my friends always teased me for this cuz my ex was 22 while I was 16. lol

## Post 12 by Don'tBlaisMeBro (Folle et simple est la brebis qui au loup se confesse.) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 18:42:59

All I can say on this is, Maturity.

## Post 13 by SingerOfSongs (Heresy and apostasy is how progress is made.) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 19:57:34

For me, maturity and intelligence is the most important thing. I've been attracted to girls both older than and younger than myself, so I can say that this is indeed how it works for me. But each to their own.

## Post 14 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Sunday, 10-Apr-2005 23:58:01

I've tried all 3 situations; younger, same age and older. And I've found that for me older seems to work better. My husband is 9 and a half years older then me, and we've done great together. But by the same token I can not again date someone to much older then me...I do agree however that it depends on the maturity, but typically males mature slower then females by about 2 years difference. Notice I did say typical.

## Post 15 by charisma (Here today, gone tomorrow.) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 2:38:09

Wel, i have always dated guys either the same age as me, or maybe a little older, like two or three years, and once I dated someone almost a year and a half younger than me, and well, let's say, he is and was my baby's daddy, and it didn't last, but it wasn't due to his age.
Sime is 8 years older than me, and i can honestly say, that because i'm 25, and he has just turned 34,, that 8 years between us is nothing but a few numbers. However, if I were eighteen or younger, I'm not sure how I'd feel about him being 34 haha. I guess if I were 18, but most deffinently no younger than that.

## Post 16 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 10:10:42

I think it does matter what age you are. when I was in school and after I left, I always used to go out with guys who were older than me, predominantly because teenage guys are generally less mature than girls of the same age, and note I said generally, there are exceptions to every rule of course. As you get older though, that maturity thing changes somewhat, and we all develop into adults. And then I think it makes less of a difference. I would draw the line I think though at a guy who was say, 15,20, 30 years older.

## Post 17 by Heavy Metal Girl 85 (Zone BBS is my Life) on Monday, 11-Apr-2005 23:49:44

I like guys who are two or even three years older then me. I'm currently going out wiht my best friend who is two years older than me .

## Post 18 by renegade rocker (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 12-Apr-2005 0:35:43

I couldn't agree more with charisma on this one, because me being thirty, and my other half being ten years older than me is really not too bad, but like allot of people have said in this post, it's the maturity factor that counts.

## Post 19 by Tiramisu (Generic Zoner) on Tuesday, 12-Apr-2005 0:53:49

i would go for someone who is older. Even a gap of ten years is not a problem to me. However, my friend is 7 years older than me but, he behaves as though he is in his early 20's.

## Post 20 by Star (Honorary Bitch of the Zone) on Tuesday, 12-Apr-2005 1:18:54

Ok here is a tougher question: how do you feel if the girl is older than the guy? What if the guy is 22 and the girl is 33 or 35 or even 39? Mostly when the question of younger/older comes to be discussed, people MOSTLY assume that the older person in the relationship will be the guy. What if it is the girl? How many here think that dating an older girl is OK and +/- 10 to 15 year difference would not matter? Star

## Post 21 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Tuesday, 12-Apr-2005 9:56:07

That's very interesting. I guess if both of them are comfortable with it, then, go for it. You go, but I'm not sure if I could do it. I would have to be IN LOVE for that to happen. I'm kind of picky about my people that I choose to date, so there you go.

## Post 22 by Star (Honorary Bitch of the Zone) on Wednesday, 13-Apr-2005 1:59:41

The reason I am asking this is because more and more celebrities like Demi Moore are dating guys who are much younger than they are. And in many cases the difference is more than 10 years. In a way I think it is a good thing because it means that society is maybe slowly accepting that women are indeed equal to men and if older men can date or marry ypunger women then why not older women dating or marrying younger men. Star

## Post 23 by Emerald-Hourglass (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 13-Apr-2005 8:38:13

I don't know about the girl being older, or taller. I want my other half to be at least my age or up to 10 years older. I think older guys are more mature and cuter.

## Post 24 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Wednesday, 13-Apr-2005 8:47:57

well, and forgive me for sounding totally sexist here, but I think it comes down to the biological clock. For example, if a 20 year old woman were to marry a 35 year old man for instance, they would have time to get to know each other, settle down, before they start a family together, after all, men are able to father children for many years, so the guy being older is not so much of an issue, because he can wait for the woman to be ready to have a baby. Also, men don't go through quite the same changes hormonally as women ... i'll come to that in a second. However, if a 20 year old man marries a 35 year old woman, they get married and wish to start a family, there is a lot more pressure to do it "now" rather than having to wait, as having a baby over the age of 35 presents certain increased risks for both woman and baby etc. So if the guy does not yet feel ready to become a father (and at age 20 I would hardly blame him), by the time he is ready, the couple could either be too late, or have to undergo certin invasive treatments in order to be able to realize their dream of a family together. Also, once the guy is say 30, his wife will then be 45, and it is likely she may start to go through the menopause, and for a fairly young guy, this could be hard to deal with. I actually think that it is not so much society that says it shouldn't happen this way, but nature. biologically, younger guys just aren't attracted to older women, after all, if all guys were younger and all women were older, the likelyhood of reproduction would be less, and thus the population would suffer.

## Post 25 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 17:40:47

Whow! That's neat, and I have to change my mind and say I agree.

## Post 26 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 18:18:59

I wouldn't say that younger guys aren't attracted to older women. My brother had a relationship for many years with a woman 12 years his senior. Though I'd have to say I'm much more comfortable with the guy being older then me; that is my preference, and I think people should do whatever makes them happy as long as they hurt no one.

## Post 27 by Star (Honorary Bitch of the Zone) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 22:59:29

Not all men and women want children, not all men who marry olderwomen want children with them, since the woman might already have children from another marriage. Besides, I am nottalking about a man being 30 and a woman being 45. I am talking about a man being 20 and a woman 30 or 35 even. She can still have children just fine. The fact is that the age was very much determined by financial means and not by reproduction. Until fairly recently women were not allowed to work, were not even allowed to vote. The only thing they had going for then was their youth and beuty and that they used to find a wealthy husband. Now for someone to have alot of money menat that he had time to grow financially and that meant that the man was in his 40s or even 50s. That is the norm became normal. But is all changing women earn money and in many cases older women are financially better off and can attract younger guys. Besides, they can probably also afford plastic surgery and all that stuff, that will make them look as good as a 25 year old. Another advantage is that an older woman has more experience in bed and believe me when I say that it makes a huge difference! Star

## Post 28 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Friday, 15-Apr-2005 2:31:26

I wouldn't know, and if it wouldn't bring up some problems for my brother, I'd ask him. LOL. I do agree though. Not all people want children; I know a few who don't...And things are changing as women become more career minded and equal.

## Post 29 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Friday, 15-Apr-2005 8:02:07

Well, earlier I wanted a guy who's about one or two years older, but if he's not too young (under 16) it's totally okay for me. Many people think the guy should be older, I think that's total nonsense. Everyone should decide for their own if the guy/girl should be older or younger.

## Post 30 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Friday, 15-Apr-2005 10:09:31

Well, I'm not changing my mind about where I stand. I still want my guy to be older.

## Post 31 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Friday, 15-Apr-2005 10:39:58

That's totally okay, each should do whatever he/she likes. I had the same opinion once, so I can#t blame you at all.

## Post 32 by Emerald-Hourglass (Account disabled) on Tuesday, 19-Apr-2005 19:55:10

same, i want my guy a little bit older

## Post 33 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 20-Apr-2005 4:20:46

I think the inner age counts, that means, the way he acts. For example, there are guys who are 15 and act like children and peope who are 15 and act older and more mature.

## Post 34 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Wednesday, 20-Apr-2005 7:21:11

and people who are 20, 30, 40 and act like children

## Post 35 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 20-Apr-2005 12:28:23

Haven't seen them actually but I believe that they exist.

## Post 36 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 21-Apr-2005 0:52:35

i like guys that are the same age as i am but a few months wont matter tall, is a good quality but being mature is what i like more.

## Post 37 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Thursday, 21-Apr-2005 12:10:59

Well yeah, and if they're mature enough for me age doesn't matter - of course there are limits. I would not go out with a twelve-year-old, no matter how mature he may be.

## Post 38 by faithful angel (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Friday, 22-Apr-2005 22:50:03

Yugugaduh! Oh Yuck!!!!!! I wouldn't either.

## Post 39 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Saturday, 23-Apr-2005 12:02:24

And I also would not choose a guy who's in my age and behaves like a child.

## Post 40 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Sunday, 28-Jun-2009 13:57:14

eighteen years dating fifteen years old, that's illegal. No adults can date minors without breaking the law.
Yes, I tend to like guys older then I and they are hard to come across too, but it looks like I can't look too far as almost most of my relationships would be illegal at my age, since I am still considered a minor.