# where is the romance

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Tuesday, 19-Jul-2005 9:06:25

Well recently there have been a number of topics on here talking about fantacies etc, and some of which have talked about chains and hot candle wax and those types of things, and that has left me wondering, where’s the romance? I’m not talking about candle lit dinners and flowers and chocolates, but love, holding hands, having a cuddle and getting close in that way before you get really intimate. Somehow how anyone can have meaningful sex after having been tied up with chains or having hot candle wax poured on them is a mystery to me. So those of you who harbour these type fantacies, I’d be interested to know, do you not want to be loved in a loving, meaningful way? Can you really feel emotionally the same about a guy, or girl, who ties you up and dominates you, as you would about one who holds you close, gives you a massage, treats you softly and lovingly before making love to you … please I don’t want details of what you do, just intreagues me a bit.

## Post 2 by Harp (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Tuesday, 19-Jul-2005 9:15:15

well, i guess in a way though this kind of fantasy can mean just as much to others as "romance" does to you. i mean these sorts of fantasies do involve a lot of trust, or so i am told, and the fact that you do trust somebody enough to engage in these sorts of activities with them is very meaningful in itself.
that said i do agree with you in so much as this wouldn't be my idea of a good time! lol. to each there own i guess!

## Post 3 by Ukulele<3 (Try me... You know you want to.) on Tuesday, 19-Jul-2005 11:37:54

Well, I am always curious as to why anyone would like to have candle wax porred on them. I love the sweet little things such as holding hands, kissing, and occasionally, being held. lol!!! But to go to those extremes do not appeal to me. So I love "LOVE" in itself!!!
*sexy*

## Post 4 by Eponine (If you find a rare Gem, hold it tightly!) on Tuesday, 19-Jul-2005 15:26:55

Personally, I love being cuddled, kissed, and holding hands, the rest can have that other stuff, that's not for me. I have no idea what perpose is served, but to each his/her own. ;)

## Post 5 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 20-Jul-2005 2:55:20

Claire, I have said it in Michelle's topic "to be or not to be? Held!" already: I love everything romantic like holding, holding hands, cuddling and things like that. But I agree, not everyone like it and there are less people who like it than maybe a few years ago.

## Post 6 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Wednesday, 20-Jul-2005 3:46:20

no but that's not the point exactly, it's not so much that people don't like to be held ... etc, my point was more that, how can you feel romantic about someone who ties you up and pours hot candle wax on you ... etc etc.

## Post 7 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 3:38:44

Mmmh, I would never feel romantic that way. That is not romantic at all.

## Post 8 by Harp (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 4:44:01

hehehe. all the hot wax fans would seem to be too busy being burned to have any in put into this topic! lol.

## Post 9 by Japanimangel (Account disabled) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 10:02:28

I'm a big fan of romance. I like the holding hands and cuddles and kisses, but chains? That just seems scarry. I don't understand why people would want that, but like people have said, maybe it is a trust thing.

## Post 10 by wildebrew (We promised the world we'd tame it, what were we hoping for?) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 10:14:25

It's hard to type when your hands are tied down, your chest is burning and you got some bizarre fallic shaped object stuck up your bottom I'm sure they will be right with us once they find the key to those chains.
cheers
-B

## Post 11 by sugar (Entertain me. I dare you.) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 11:14:57

rofl B!!! Omg! Candle wax? The hell...... iiiii. no.

## Post 12 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 13:19:38

Chains red wine ice cubes melted chocolate being kissed deeply in the rain,and when I have return all sweaty and dirty from a climb, and she holds me as if I might run away..covering a white duvet on our gothic iron bed, with dark red and white, rose petals, for Feb 14th just to hear her reaction...buying her gifts for no particular reason,..When you grow up with 2 romantic Italian women, you learn to do it right..grin...

## Post 13 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 15:52:32

hmmm do it right ... well personally not sure about the chains and the ice cubes ... actually weren't the ice cubes something out of 9 and a half weeks? *grins*, would go with the gifts for no reason though but ... well I'm amazed goblin has so much time to go climbing - being as he makes it on here every day without fail, I imagine he stops for a quick surf on his wap phone while at the top of the mountain ... *grins*

## Post 14 by Ukulele<3 (Try me... You know you want to.) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 16:04:26

hahahahah Clare!!! hahahah You are so funny!!!! Well, they say, technology is a wonderful thing!!! hehehehehe
*sexy*

## Post 15 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Thursday, 21-Jul-2005 22:10:35

i think that everyone to each as there own and i have tryed a lot. but the candle wax and chains is definitely not a love kind of thing and i would have to be married to someone for 20 years or more to even consider chains.

## Post 16 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 22-Jul-2005 11:14:56

Right enough you both have to respect each other's level of tolerance and limit of pain ect if you were going to take things further..

## Post 17 by mdyer1983 (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Friday, 22-Jul-2005 15:57:46

Well I don't think I would be able to jhandle the candlewax or anything like that, but I would give anything to be loved even write this second. It would be really nice and would ma,ke me happy.

## Post 18 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Thursday, 18-Jun-2009 15:06:03

Yeah, I am in to the romanticism in the nineteen centry.