# your girl friend asking other guys to a formal dance

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by pressthehellokey (Newborn Zoner) on Saturday, 17-Dec-2011 1:11:43

how would you feel if your girl friend took your money to go to a dance with you a formal dance and she went with some one else that is what happened to me

## Post 2 by Agent r08 (Jesus Christ on a chocolate cross) on Saturday, 17-Dec-2011 2:26:20

I would not be happy at all.
Firstly it's with your money, the guy taking her should pay, not you. Secondly if she broke the date with you to go with someone else should raise some red flags.

## Post 3 by SilverLightning (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 17-Dec-2011 2:37:34

I would feel an inexplicable bout of being single come over me, that is how I would feel.

## Post 4 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Saturday, 17-Dec-2011 2:40:54

Yep, no point saying she's your girlfriend. Let her go. It only gets worse if you don't.

## Post 5 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Saturday, 17-Dec-2011 11:43:12

yep; seems totally one-sided.

## Post 6 by Thunderstorm (HotIndian!) on Saturday, 17-Dec-2011 12:10:05

I'll take it as a time for a change of my relationship.
Raaj.

## Post 7 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Sunday, 18-Dec-2011 15:25:31

Agreed with others here, but I will add this:
the boundries of what is, and is not considered cheating in a relationship is something that really needs to be discussed up front. Some couples are OK with their partner going to a dance with someone else so long as it goes no further than being present there together and enjoying each other's company. Others are OK with just about anything as long as the other partner is also present. I would say the majority of people probably are not OK with this at all. Anyway, I'm sure you get the point. I'm not saying I excuse the girlfriend in this case, especially since it was your money, and she failed to talk to you about it first, or so it would seem from your post. But setting the boundries up front should help eliminate some confusion, and if any arises in the future, then you know it's time to leave.

## Post 8 by Razeem (Account disabled) on Sunday, 18-Dec-2011 17:06:56

A straight no!

## Post 9 by starfly (99956) on Monday, 19-Dec-2011 12:06:00

no

## Post 10 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Monday, 19-Dec-2011 14:00:15

Well, I agree with most people on here. Take a clue, young man: this isn't one time to be politically correct and sensitive. She may want to be equal with you, but equal rights means equal responsibilityes. Taking your money and spending it taking another guy out to a dance is beyond crazy. You're not sexist, piggish, insensitive or whatever other label they'll try and lay on you, for not accepting it. Were it me, I would count my losses, and make a hasty retreat. Ifg you say "Oh that's OK, you were having a female moment ..." over something like that you're just gonna send the message it's really OK.
All I will say is, if you're going to do it, do it like you mean it: don't back down because she starts to cry. I'm a man: I know. We're all-out wusses when it comes to seeing a girl cry. You just gotta be ready ahead of time, don't have to be mean about it but just be firm and make it stick.

## Post 11 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Monday, 19-Dec-2011 14:12:24

It's fine with me as long as she pays for the bar tab I decide to run up when taking her sister out for a night on the town.

## Post 12 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Monday, 19-Dec-2011 16:48:59

haha. good point. Bring some humor into it.