# Wanting the same guy as your friend?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by gummybear16 (Account disabled) on Friday, 15-Jul-2005 14:06:33

Hi all,
So I want this guy. My friend wants him too. He's the one I really want, and I feel god is leading to him. But, If I really get strong feeling for this guy, how am I going to keep a friendship with my friend?
Is it wrong for me to wanna fight?
I dunnow.
anyway,
Peace.

## Post 2 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Friday, 15-Jul-2005 14:14:29

hey Gumball, can you give us more info? I mean, how long have you been friends with her? how close are you's? does this guy know you both like him? do you know if he likes either one of you? there are a lot of questions, as I said to you before, which should really be taken into account you know. obviously if the boy likes one of you more, there's the answer there and there and there's unfortunately not much ya can do about it. also, like I said before, sometimes you have to be respectful and let it go for the sake of your friend. .. Been there myself, very hard. what's more important? losing a close friend or losing a guy (who you probably am not entirely sure on his long-term relationship goals yet! know what I mean? a lot of things to consider in these sorts of situations!
good luck! :)

## Post 3 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Sunday, 17-Jul-2005 17:49:57

agreed, and best of luck to you.

## Post 4 by Ukulele<3 (Try me... You know you want to.) on Sunday, 17-Jul-2005 19:01:47

Um, well, personally, I hate people who go after there friend's crush. I had that happen to me and it took me a very long time to forgive her. Even now, we still don't talk much. I told my friend how I felt about him and she just went ahead and snatched him up. Needless to say, he broke up with her after a week. heheheheeheh But if you want to do it, go straight ahead!!!
*sexy*

## Post 5 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 18-Jul-2005 5:55:50

Well I actually think it depends. If the guy is going out with your friend and you like him then you just don’t go there. Any more really than if the guy is in a relationship with anyone, but more so if it’s a friend. If you know that him and your friend are on the verge of starting a relationship, then it’s also wise to back off, after all, there might already be feelings on both sides. However, if it’s a guy and the two of you just like him, then, although you do need to talk about it, and not fight over it, (I would never lower myself to fight over a man), effectively it is up to the guy who he chooses, and the other party should respect that. After all, you could both decide not to go for the guy and he would move on and be with someone else, wouldn’t you rather he ended up with your friend than watch him walking down the street with a stranger?