# Guilty not necessarily

Category: Let's talk

## Post 1 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 13:11:37

Our wonderful labour government are implementing a law that will allow mothers, starting a relationship with a new partner, to check if he is on the sex offenders registar..without his knowledge. I think this is a criminal intrusion and a gross invasion of privacy..

## Post 2 by Raskolnikov (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 13:37:27

If the mother is suspicious that her fiance is a damn child molester, then what the heck is she doing marrying the bastard in the first place? Then again, these bastards, the ones who are expert predators and who cunningly zero in on vulnerable victims, are so prevalent in our world and in our homes because not enough laws exist to stop them from victimizing. And sex offenders, at least here in the States, hardly ever register. I think that if the mother is suspicious of something then she has the right to get a background check. If the guy has nothing to hide, if he's not a sex offender, then he shouldn't have a problem with his privacy being intruded upon. But if it turns out that he is a bastard, then that's one less bastard to worry about. I don't know what the statistics are for child molestation between step fathers and their adopted children, but I know that abuse in families is more likely to be committed by the father. So maybe this law would work after all;we need to protect the children.

## Post 3 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 13:40:31

1.What if he was wrongly convicted mud sticks and once a man has a sexual offence on his record its there for life. 2 Women marry men who beat them to a pulp. 3.The offenders are put on the register by the courts it's mandatory.

## Post 4 by Raskolnikov (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 13:51:44

Better to be safe than sorry. And haven't you ever heard of aliases? These predators are chased out of the communities in which they try to go unnoticed so that they victimize more children. When they find no place where they are accepted, they move and don't let the town they move into know about their presence. Sex offenders can't be completely rehabilitated, not even the ones who have their peckers voluntarily removed. As for woman suffering from battered-wife syndrome, yes, it's sad but true.

## Post 5 by Sassiecat (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 22:17:29

I do not believe that a mother running a background check to see if her new partner is listed as a sex offender is a violation of privacy at all. If a mother is suspicious, then her children come first, not her love interest.
If the person she is with has nothing to hide, then great, if he does, then too bad so sad for him.
I also believe that a child molester, whether they are a man or woman, has *no* rights at all. When someone like that violates the rights of a child, then they're lower than scum and should be treated as such.
The Sassiest of Kitties

## Post 6 by Twinklestar09 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Thursday, 23-Nov-2006 22:54:59

I agree that if a partner has nothing to hide, they shouldn't have a problem with their partner checking to see his records, especially if she seriously feels unsure/suspicious about him. I do know of two men who were honestly wrongly accused of rape (by their partners) and who are currently in jail for it, but I would think (or hope), that the system is not that messed up that they would jail not-guilty people more than guilty ones. I don't know. But, by allowing the wondering partner to know (hopefully before they decide to marry that partner), whether or not they are a sex offender (or maybe have does some other serious crime), can only be good for themselves and their children. If the person was wrongly accused, ideally, it would be good if it counted as something against the person accusing them. I know that is probably not usually the case, so if wouldn't be good for a wrongly-accused person unfortunately. But for (hopefully the majority) of actual sex offenders, hopefully they can get help for their issues and they might get a caring but watchful partner that will accept them (especially if it was only a one-time thing). Also, the public could be made aware of this right by the partner to check their partner's records/whether or not they are a sex offender, and just that might stop them from doing the crime, and/or they will get in even more trouble for harming/threatening the child not to tell.