# odd fetish?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by alixz (Newborn Zoner) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 13:29:17

hey all,
I wanted to post because I'm curious if anyone else has delt with this.
I really like girls' hands, size, shape, texture, smell all that. I really love girls who have more sweaty hands, but I'm really not all that picky. Girlfriend before last was totally cool with it, but the last girl I dated pretty much walked out when I tried to explain it. It's something I feel weird about, but I don't think it's anything I will ever be able to change. I notice it when people touch me, etc.
I've paid a few people I really liked that were cool with it to describe, but that's been all online. I'm curious how people might approach something like this: I'd love to find a girlfriend who is ok with it, or just people in general. It's always a bit scary getting close to people and then them going away or being scared they will because of this.
Thanks,

## Post 2 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 14:27:30

There are far stranger fedishes out there. Perhaps it is not as conventional as other traditional turn-on parts of a body, but so what? Just remember that holding hands is still just holding hands at first.:) In all seriousness, I don't think you need to worry about this. Some men like the chest, others like the hands. I'm generalizing, but you get what I'm saying. I'm not sure what you mean about paying people though. Do you mean paying people to describe their hands? I'm not sure about that one. Hobody wants to be a hand-hooker.:)

## Post 3 by alixz (Newborn Zoner) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 14:32:14

thanks a lot for the reply. Holding hands works great, actually. Doesn't really give you smell, but usually I'm for it.
The description was just people to send info about it. I guess I'm worried about a girl just going off again that I don't really go that way, but I still like it, so I settled for a secondary option, odd though it may be. Perhaps I should just give it another wirl, see where it goes. Maybe it won't matter.

## Post 4 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 14:51:17

Well, you can't accidentally get someone pregnant from holding (or even inhaling) hands.:)

## Post 5 by forereel (Just posting.) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 18:29:02

I believe I'd just keep it to myself until I was close to the girl.
Because it is hands, you can receive your input easily.
You can hold her hand. This is acceptable.
You can feel her hand, or hands while you talk to her. That also is welcome, and easy.
To smell them, simply kiss her palm.
If you hold her hand long enough, her hand scent will be on your hand.
Don't wash yours, go home and inheal until you had enough.
Okay, so after you've dated her, or spent some time with her, simply tell her one day "I really love your hands."
I don't mean after the first hour, but maybe 2 3 dates, or whatever.
Same thing as lips, legs, personality.
Why make a speech about it, unless she ask you what are some of your turn ons.
That is another way to bring your interest up. Once you are to that level, ask her, what are some of your turn ons. Now you are open to talk about yours.
I sincerely think people should be open about these things after a while. Harmony in a relationship will not be harmony if you aren't enjoying it, right?
Just my thoughts.

## Post 6 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 18:58:37

well said, Wayne.

## Post 7 by alixz (Newborn Zoner) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 19:47:46

Thanks a lot for all your responses, I really appreciate it. Inhaling my own is sort of less interesting, but I'll settle for what I get, along with just random notices. The thing I have noticed is a lot of people don't want to touch people, even when I'm asking for help, so that's rare. There are random people I've just asked to tell me about their hands. Some don't like it, others are totally cool with it. Just my solutions to the problem.
I think the weirdness kicks in honestly when I talk about smell/clammy. they're usually like well that's cute, you like my hands, but then I have to elaborate because people don't usually think about that. Again, some are ok, most aren't. Maybe it's just something I'll have to deal with: if I can't find someone and can't be open about what I like, it really, as was already said wouldn't be that great of a relationship.

## Post 8 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2014 21:24:10

yes, you're exactly right.
honestly, people will, and do, find things about each other that they don't like, no matter who you are, or what the thing is that you're into, that they aren't. that's just a fact of life, and as long as you're comfortable with yourself, you'll be just fine.
I'm not trying to say that the road will be easy, by any means, but as you've hopefully already discovered, there are definitely people in the world who will support you, and let you know that it's how you see yourself that matters most, over all.

## Post 9 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Sunday, 13-Jul-2014 1:25:52

Interesting fetish. It's not all that strange really, as others have said. There are much more awkward fetishes out there. I too notice hands, though am probably not turned on by them to the extent that you are.

## Post 10 by forereel (Just posting.) on Sunday, 13-Jul-2014 1:53:23

I don't know if this is even a fetish in the main sense, but I guess anything liked could be called such.
In this case, it is really easy enjoyed, so that is why I have my opinion.
Maybe you are making to much of it instead of just enjoying it?
You are right that people don't much like touching others. In this case, I'd hope touch would be what was wanted.
We all have to exercise our sexual likes in the correct setting for them, but I strongly feel, that with your sexual partner, that is the correct setting, so when you are at that level, say.
We sometimes talk about feet here on the Zone. Think about that one fore awhile, and you'll understand how hands just isn't that major. Smile.
Note, I'm not making light of your situation, but just think.
If you enjoyed smelling feet. You would have a harder time asking someone to take her shoes off say at the restaurant, so you could.
Enjoy friend.

## Post 11 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Sunday, 13-Jul-2014 5:19:40

What about diaper and pissing fetishes? What about the little guy whose fetish is to be swallowed so he can swim around in someone stomach? Compared to that, this is almost normal really. Just enjoy it as best you can.

## Post 12 by alixz (Newborn Zoner) on Sunday, 13-Jul-2014 12:14:24

Thanks all for the replies, I really do appreciate it. I'm glad I can kind of be open about this and receive useful responses. :) I think I'm just going to run with it. I really like random contact when I get to see, and as aww already stated, holding hands on a date isn't all that random. I've also had a couple girls tell me about theirs, which was also cool.
Main thing is I'm done being insecure about it. I don't have to brag about it in public, but if someone walks out when I explain, they probably aren't the person I want to be with anyway.

## Post 13 by forereel (Just posting.) on Sunday, 13-Jul-2014 12:24:34

Maybe not.
However, give that person some adjustment time. You might find that once she understands, and is comfortable with it, she'd be exactly the person you'll want to be with.
Bring it up in a comfortable way, and don't make it a major deal.
Maybe approach it, leave it alone, and come back to it at some later time, if rebuffed.
Many times, people just haven't thought about things or concepts. Once they do, and understand them, they embrace them, and really enjoy them.
They also make an effert to make the activity more enjoyable for the person that it makes happy.
Maybe she experiments with different hand lotions, and such things, for example.
That is giving, and I don't think our society allows for much of this, but when you have it, it's wonderful.
This hand thing, just doesn't seem all that major, to me anyway.

## Post 14 by johndy (I just keep on posting!) on Sunday, 13-Jul-2014 20:09:56

I don't see the problem. Don't mean to make light of it, but I don't think you'll get as much trouble from society as we guys who like another guy's eight-inch cock (smile). Anyway, I would enjoy it. Besides, there's a fine line between fettishes and simple likes.

## Post 15 by blbobby (Ooo you're gona like this!) on Monday, 14-Jul-2014 12:21:07

As others have said, this doesn't sound like much of a problem to me.
In other words, it's probably not listed as one of the big paraphilias, like scat or playing with dead bodies.
On the other hand, it's a biggie to you if you make it a biggie.
So, my advice, enjoy it.
Bob

## Post 16 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Monday, 14-Jul-2014 15:55:38

Agreed with Bob here.
Also, there are cultures where a woman's hands are admired in the same way that the face is in western countries. So, if you did bring it up, you could mention that in Japanese society people do like a woman's hands, and that you kinda like that, and think hers are beautiful.
Just keep the term 'fetish' out of the discussion: most western-raised women run from that term. Also, just because it's different doesn't make it a fetish. People overuse that term, just like they overuse the term addiction, to indicate something they don't like. But a fetish is quite literally a situation where you cannot get sexually turned on without that thing being there.
And, well, hands are always there anyway, so. Hard to say.
But I agree with your preference personally. I also enjoy a woman's hands.

## Post 17 by johndy (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 14-Jul-2014 18:58:08

It's kinda what I was getting at. Sometimes I think we make more of things than we need to. It's a discussion that could be raised on another board. How much should we pay attention to norms, and are there norms within so-called subnorms or abnormals? I tend to think that in general, we're more uptight about a whole lot of things today that we weren't so bent out of shape over in years past, and that we find danger in practically everything. I was only fifteen when the seventies ended, so I sometimes think I missed out on a whole lot for not being old enough.

## Post 18 by Maiden of the Moonlight (Zone BBS is my Life) on Thursday, 17-Jul-2014 17:14:29

I absolutely agree with forereel and Bob. I think this is so not a big deal as long as you don't turn it into one. As stated, everyone has their turn-ons, and that doesn't necessarily make it a fetish, but calling it a fetish is a turn-off for most. So just relax with it, don't run wild, but enjoy what you can.
But I say all of this out of ignorance, not really knowing how it feels to walk in your shoes, so to speak. So please don't think I'm trying to be insensitive. I'm just kind of trying to picture how I would feel if my love interest told me something like this. Definitely bringing it up in a casual way would be more welcome. And holding hands is such a normal thing, yet sometimes so simply intimate, so yeah I don't necessarily see anything weird with that. Hope that makes sense.

## Post 19 by vaca69 (Newborn Zoner) on Wednesday, 25-Feb-2015 11:59:18

I don't know. I'm kinda in the same situation as far as this. I've come so close to asking one of my co workers how big her lips are. She let me feel her face one time, but I got as far as her chin. Her front teeth has gaps which I found really attracictive, butr I don't know if I should go as far as asking the size of her lips. I know some people have them big, and some are small. She does know I'm fascinated with them though. Some advice would be appreciated.

## Post 20 by AgateRain (Believe it or not, everything on me and about me is real!) on Wednesday, 25-Feb-2015 13:00:27

I have an obsession with men's hair...like, the chin, face, and chest type of stuff. I guess everything that makes them masculine.
I say there's nothing wrong with it. You have to hold hands anyway, so why not just play it off like, "baby, I just love to hold and smell your hands." and just leave the word fetish out of it. If I were that woman, I would just see it as you really enjoy my hands or whatever. I would not see it as an addiction or whatever other women may see it as. Other men love feet, so the fact that you love hands is so much better than loving feet. lol

## Post 21 by nikos (English words from a Greek thinking brain) on Thursday, 26-Feb-2015 2:13:02

Hi.
I will confess that i
Hi.
I will confess that I also enjoy holding women's hands so i understand how you feel.
But i don't say anything about it to anybody.
It is like when I meet a woman i don't care how the other parts of her body look like. I only want to know how her hands look like.
But i don't ask them or anything. I just hope that we will have an oportunity to hold hands either because she might guide me somewhere, because of a nice to meet you handshake, and things like that.
I am a bit disappointed when women are trained to guide the blind because they will give you their arm instead of their hands lol.

## Post 22 by nikos (English words from a Greek thinking brain) on Thursday, 26-Feb-2015 2:16:57

Sorry about all these line breaks in my post.
I don't know how they ended there.

## Post 23 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 20:02:12

Wow, can't believe I found this board. I guess I'm not the only one with a hand fetish. I love to feel womens hands to especially the palms, I like them especially when the either feel extremely sweaty or very rough I also love to put there palms on my lips and do like to smell them. I had an ex girlfriend that would let me do that especially when she would get through smoking she would put her palms on my lips.

## Post 24 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 20:05:02

I also like when her palms are not just a little sweaty but when they are so sweaty they feel like they are soaking wet. even had some chances to smell them,

## Post 25 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 06-Jan-2016 20:12:37

not weird. not like richie. holding hands is natural. you would do it if on a date
or something. I don't see it as a problem. :)

## Post 26 by VioletBlue (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 18:44:41

Post 5, and Bob are absolutely right. Stop thinking you're an oddball, and stop thinking of this as a fetish. The thing that puts these women off it probably you talking about it as if it's something strange about yourself, when it's really common.

## Post 27 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 07-Jan-2016 20:41:22

agree with violet there.

## Post 28 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 08-Jan-2016 1:02:56

Yup, that's how I feel about my fastenation wit how a womans palms feel to. I just feel like that's how I can relate. Ido find myself imagining what her hands feel like to.but at the same time I want to make sure that its cool whith her to.

## Post 29 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Friday, 08-Jan-2016 4:30:27

I like to just play it off like its okay, just figurte that's the way I know what she looks like, can tell a lot by thefeel of her hands.I do love having her press her hand on my lips and caressing them. That just does it real nice for me man talk about making me feel real nice.

## Post 30 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Saturday, 09-Jan-2016 11:27:59

Unless you go really overboard, your fetish or curiosity is one that can be pretty easily satisfied. It's easy enough to shake or hold her hand. Mine is much more difficult to pull off.

## Post 31 by forereel (Just posting.) on Saturday, 09-Jan-2016 15:34:34

Smiles at Anthony's imput.

## Post 32 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 10:16:27

Wow been a while since anyone posted in here. so thought I'd step in here and get this party started. The way I feel about the hand fetish is its really no different then someone like feet hear about that one all the time.Think I started having a fastenation with hands as young as maybe elementary school with some of the girls at recess. Sometimes they would walk on the playground at recess and hold my hand and I just woul find there palms interesting.

## Post 33 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 10:24:11

The problem with, "getting the party started," is that each of us posts about what we're interested in, but none of us are exactly interested in the same thing.

## Post 34 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 10:33:01

Hi, really love this topic, and agree with Sia Fan bp this site is really educational.

## Post 35 by forereel (Just posting.) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 10:40:20

Smile.
You have learned either you are one of the few, or the others aren't admitting this.

## Post 36 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 14:25:28

lol, that's the tag line. if I were premium, I would change it. :d

## Post 37 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 14:29:28

So what would you change it to?

## Post 38 by forereel (Just posting.) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 18:05:30

Username: sia fan bp
User ID: 28639
Go head buy that girl a premium and see what she changes her rank to.

## Post 39 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 18:05:38

I imagine you would change it to something real neat.

## Post 40 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 18:26:29

wayne, buy me a premium. :d not. useless. :d I might change it to my status.
love that quote from that one million bullets by sia! or might change it to
cheap thrills. who knows. everyone knows me as the random person. :d

## Post 41 by forereel (Just posting.) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 20:19:24

He wishes to see the change, so... *grin*

## Post 42 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 14-Jan-2016 20:45:21

Hi I know that would be a nice change and more then worth the wait. I'm up for anything.

## Post 43 by vaca69 (Newborn Zoner) on Friday, 15-Jan-2016 15:24:26

All this talk about hands, but what about girls sucking on your fingers? or you doing it to them?

## Post 44 by Strange Fascination (Newborn Zoner) on Friday, 12-Feb-2016 19:36:10

I'd say there's no shame in a fascination with hands; I'm sure there are people who can respect, appreciate, and even enjoy your fascination. As my screen name suggests, there are things I'm interested in that are quite...well, strange. For example, when some women go to the bathroom, it makes kind of a hissing sound that I actually find quite erotic. The thing with fetishes is, if people don't have your particular fascination, they'll probably be baffled, and possibly even disgusted at how we could find something appealing that most people don't associate with anything sexual.

## Post 45 by forereel (Just posting.) on Friday, 12-Feb-2016 20:49:11

Maybe it isn't the sound but the information a girl is peeing and the fact she's got her pants down and the whole deal.
That is new.
If a guy set down he'd make the same sort of sound I think.

## Post 46 by moonspun (This site is so "educational") on Saturday, 20-Feb-2016 4:01:31

The fetishes themselves aren't weird at all. What is odd is asking random people in the street to tell you about their hands etc. Save that for your girlie or for people you know very well. I once came across a family friend who would ask me at every opportunity how my arm was. They wanted to touch it, feel it, stroke it, ask what shape it was, how much hair it had on it, how much muscle etc. Now I'm a pretty liberal and easy going person, but it made me incredibly uncomfortable. I don't appreciate personal space being invaded with awkward situations like this, and had there been any chance of intimacy, this would have blown it right out of the water, just as it would have done if a fella was obsessing about my boobs and asking loads of questions about those. The fettish is never the problem. It's the way it's dealt with that is.

## Post 47 by contradiction (aww, I always knew my opinion mattered to you!) on Tuesday, 23-Feb-2016 5:57:58

On a completely unrelated note, word has gotten to me that that Alex has passed due to cancer. R.I.P.

## Post 48 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Tuesday, 23-Feb-2016 7:45:35

awe man, that's terrible. I wondered why he disappeared. He was so busy working that he really didn't take care of his own health.

## Post 49 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 23-Feb-2016 12:24:48

wait, this guy we're talking to? or someone else? dang... sorry to hear that.

## Post 50 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 24-Feb-2016 10:17:56

r.i.p alixz. and I only talked to him last year. :(

## Post 51 by contradiction (aww, I always knew my opinion mattered to you!) on Thursday, 25-Feb-2016 4:56:36

Very true, Anthony. He had it for a good 6 months or so, and he was hospitalized before the battle even began.

## Post 52 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Thursday, 25-Feb-2016 16:20:45

Yes, he thought it was just simptoms of stress related to work.

## Post 53 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 25-Feb-2016 19:42:22

Wow, was wondering what happened to Alex been a while since he posted. Well, maybe we can keep this board up for a while.

## Post 54 by sia fan bp (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 25-Feb-2016 20:31:48

keep it up? maybe we could. poor alex, may he rest in peace. The very short
time I got to talk to him, he told me about this and then he was like, "you're
not scared of me are you?" He will be missed by us.

## Post 55 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 25-Feb-2016 21:57:11

It was kind of nice to seew this board out here, at least I felt like I wasn't the only one that has a fastenation with hands. So I say lets keep it going and all that good stuff.

## Post 56 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Tuesday, 29-Mar-2016 14:15:08

Wow, been a while since anyone posted on here. That's how I feel about my fastenation with womens hands, use to feel that it was hard to really say anything about it but after hearing other things that I've heare that other people like I realized that there are things that are more unusual then that so don't feel bad about it I feel more okay with it now. Sometimes you can lear quite a lot of things that way.

## Post 57 by nascarfan54 (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 07-Apr-2016 12:37:15

Hi, just want to post a message, been a while since I've posted. one thing about womens palms I really like is especially on darker complected women that they tend to be realy rough in some cases I like to feel them when they feel like that and do love to feel them on my lips. that really feels very nice.