# What to you do if your GF or BF's mom or dad is prejudice against your race?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by saiyan4414 (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Monday, 16-Jan-2006 22:38:19

Just a question I thought I'd ask.

## Post 2 by fire975 (Generic Zoner) on Monday, 16-Jan-2006 23:09:03

It depends on how strong the couple feel about each other. If they are happy together and care deeply for each other, I say that the parents will just have to be unhappy. After all, the parents aren't dating your partner. You are. Having said that, it really is not an easy situation to be in. I've experienced that myself.

## Post 3 by Puggle (I love my life!) on Tuesday, 17-Jan-2006 3:55:11

parents often dislike their childs partners for any number of reasons, but given time, if your parents truely care for you, and want you to be happy, then they will put their personal differences aside and get along with your partner for your sake. THis isn't always the case, but is how it should be in my oppinion.

## Post 4 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Tuesday, 17-Jan-2006 8:39:15

Neck tie party!

## Post 5 by Senior (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Wednesday, 18-Jan-2006 15:30:46

You oppose their parents, your partner should if they're not racist be on your side, you resist all attempts by the parents to significantly oppose your relationship, you battle and battle, with unrelentless courage and if it percists, you and your partner disassociate yourselves from the fascists, your partner shouldn't be bothered, because who wants racist parents? They're better of out of both your lives indefinitely or forcibly reformed.

## Post 6 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Friday, 20-Jan-2006 18:36:28

i'm living my life for me, not my parents. if they can't see the fact that i'm happy, that's their problem, not mine.

## Post 7 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 21-Jan-2006 8:51:38

Saiyan like everything else discrimination and predjudice are the offspring of ignorance, so you need to educate your parents on where they are going wrong.

## Post 8 by Perestroika (Her Swissness) on Saturday, 21-Jan-2006 9:33:58

ultimately there isn't a lot you can do if the persons parents are set in there ways.
education doesn't always work because time can set routeens and habbits in people that can't always be removed. in this case, it's sometimes the parents of those parents who have instilled those prejudices in their children, there fore it's been a thing that they have grown up with. I feel that letting them know how you feel about these prejudices makes a lot of difference, because while they may have difficulty dealing with their prejudices, they might understand your feelings and not show it openly or try to keep their feelings under controll.

## Post 9 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Saturday, 21-Jan-2006 22:40:09

I agree what's been said, I'm the one dating, not my parents so if I want to date another race, disability, etc. I will!
Troy

## Post 10 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Saturday, 21-Jan-2006 22:47:28

I agree what's been said, I'm the one dating, not my parents so if I want to date another race, disability, etc. I will!
Troy

## Post 11 by Senior (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Sunday, 22-Jan-2006 18:20:43

But no compromise, and they should be forced to compensate for their attitude towards you. I can understand how they may have developed their attitudes from their parents but the same didn't happen to their offspring, they should have 2 choices, listen and learn, or lose.

## Post 12 by saiyan4414 (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Sunday, 22-Jan-2006 23:51:03

It has nothing to do with my parents. And I don't know I guess it's a family thing for most of her mom's family, but not all of it.

## Post 13 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 23-Jan-2006 9:46:03

Well the children at least need to be taught that any form of predjudice is wrong while their minds are still receptive, doing nothing is akin to condoning the discrimination, because you choose not to act to change the situation.

## Post 14 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Monday, 08-Jun-2009 6:39:10

I just straight up wouldn't care. I'll just keep my head high and nose up in the air and just say, "Hell, whatever, Be damned prejudice all you want." I have no right to stop them and they can be prejudice all they want. It's there right, but I wouldn't care, I'll just date my guy.