# the differance

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by QueenOfTheSeaForever (Generic Zoner) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 3:07:41

Hey all. I've got a question. What's the differance between being sexually frusturated, and doing something because you're body is asking for it? Is there a differance? Or would something like that be considered sexual frustration.

## Post 2 by forereel (Just posting.) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 9:45:31

This would have been a great topic to have posted on graffiti in the sex anonymous section.
The reason for this, is the answers could be more detailed.
Personally, I would say that the term frustration only applies if you can’t, or won’t, do anything to relieve it.
It would also apply when you are doing something alone, or with a partner that falls short of your climax leaving you wanting to finish, but for whatever reasons not being able to.
Frustration can also be caused by the method you use. It brings you to a climax, but it isn’t mentally/physically the way you want it to happen.
If you do something when you feel the need, and that something satisfies you, I’d say you wouldn’t be frustrated when you feel the need often, but healthy.
I sometimes wonder if a person’s level of sexual frustration grows due to sexual experiences. An example of what I mean, is if you’ve had a partner for a while, and had good experiences with that partner because of the partner, interaction. Now you have to do without the partner. You climax, but you are missing the other factors and variations that the partner experience brought, so you could be active, but frustrated to a point.
These are my thoughts.

## Post 3 by QueenOfTheSeaForever (Generic Zoner) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 16:37:09

Well, what's going on is that, I do something alone and I do finish, it's just, I'm never satisfied, it's there's so much more that goes on in my head. When I do things like this, I'm not thinking about anyone, it's just an action that I repeat over and over without feeling. I'm confused, I don't know if I'm sexually frusturated or... I'm just confused.

## Post 4 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 18:33:29

why is it so important that you know one way or another, right now?
part of learning things, in this context, is the whole experience of finding out what kinds of things you do and don't like, or will and won't tolerate, sexually.
there's nothing wrong with wanting more than you currently have access to, and I agree with Wayne that that can classify as sexual frustration.
personally, I miss having physical contact with my boyfriend, but at the same time, I wouldn't say I'm sexually frustrated, cause our bond is so solid, not to mention, it won't be this way forever.

## Post 5 by forereel (Just posting.) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 18:49:37

What you need is more females answering your question.
Because you are asking a sexual question, I’ll bet you’d get more answers if you put it on the sex boards were people could tell you what they feel or don’t, but not show who they are.
You say you repeat it over and over, and you climax, but you have more going on in your head.
I’d want to know what?
Next, from a man’s point of view, sex with yourself doesn’t have to be about anyone at all, it is about the feeling of the climax, and the release that brings.
The stuff that goes on in the head could be many things, like imagining you are with your neighbor, to someone you’ve totally created that doesn’t exist in your circle of acquaintances.
It doesn’t even have to be about anyone at all, could just be about the rush at the end.
That rush/feeling/climax is what motivates me to repeat it, and I am not frustrated, just sexually alive.
My sex drive motivates me to want to add someone to it, or the people in my circle motivate my sexual motivation, or need.
Nature to a point I’d say generates some of this too, and lots of other factors.
But again, I’m a guy. I can’t relate to how a woman must feel, or her sexual emotional makeup. Sure, I know about it, and have been told about it. I’ve even read books, but I can’t know.
Also sexual emotional makeup is individual, so mine won’t exactly be like other men.

## Post 6 by johndy (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 19:10:38

And people are as different as snowflakes, so no two guys are entirely alike. The last time I was with another human being was almost three years ago. We fucked for about a half hour because we were friends and we wanted that kind of intimacy. I’d say we weren’t frustrated; we wanted the connection although we weren’t gunna be lovers forever. We haven’t seen one another in a while, but the last time we talked, we wanted to do it again. I don’t think that’s sexual frustration. It’s wanting that human connection. In my case it’s that very gay human male connection. Frustration, though, is when you don’t get whatever you want for a while and don’t have ready access to it. In some ways I think I’m a little frustrated now because I don’t have regular access to good cock. So I beat off thinking about it, inventing fantasy lovers in my mind, and getting my rocks off, but not really feeling connected to the overall experience. It’s like, ho hum, I’ve done this, been there, got the T-shirt. Now what? Just some thoughts.

## Post 7 by contradiction (aww, I always knew my opinion mattered to you!) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 23:05:00

I agree with what Wayne has said here. Try graffiti.
That being said, there is a huge difference between masturbating and being with a
partner. I would be sexually frustrated too if I were trying to get the same results with my
hand as I did with a penis(or any other method, whatever chokes your chicken… Literally).
I can also be sexually frustrated if someone is bringing me to climax, but not quite
bringing me over the edge. That is the epitome of frustration for me. As for need, let me
figure out how to explain that.

## Post 8 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Tuesday, 24-Jun-2014 23:15:31

Same here, John! I feel ya... Oh wait, maybe I shouldn't put it quite like that.

## Post 9 by SilverLightning (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Wednesday, 25-Jun-2014 4:06:59

my suggestion would be to try other things. Try things you're not quite sure
about. If you're just doing the same thing over and over again, and its boring,
add something to it. Try watching porn. Try touching somewhere else. Try
getting a toy, or a new toy, or a different kind of toy. Try phone or skipe sex if
you can't have real sex.
Masturbation needs to be as varied as real sex does. Even if you're having sex
daily, it will get boring if you do the same thing over and over again. You need
to add something new, and in my personal opinion, the best way to do that is to
find a taboo you enjoy. Something dirty, that you can do when no one is around,
and never tell anyone about. Make it your own little secret, and that makes it
more fun.
Hope that made sense. If not, message me and I'll be more detailed in a
private setting.

## Post 10 by johndy (I just keep on posting!) on Wednesday, 25-Jun-2014 6:20:53

Skipe is actually cool. Did that a while back, and the good thing is you can actually exhibit yourself to your skipe partner, at least if you both have dicks.

## Post 11 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Wednesday, 25-Jun-2014 12:33:49

I like the whole Skype experience as well, but since my hearing has gotten so bad, it's not quite as easy as it once was.

## Post 12 by Dolce Eleganza (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Sunday, 29-Jun-2014 16:14:38

I agree with Wayne. I also like what Cody said, if you do the same thing
over and over again, weather you are having sex or vise versa, it can be
boring. So it's important to add to it. Also I think there's a difference, and I'll
return with my opinion