# Does porn turn you on? why? Why not? Let's explore.

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 14:15:22

Yes, certain types of porn can really get me going, but I don't want any music in it, I don't want any of that weird audio described porn, and I don't want it to sound fake. The last criteria weeds out about 90 percent alone. I like the really rare amateur stuff, preferably with dialog, but just good slirping and/or ball-banging action is sufficient. Also, the microphone needs to be close enough so you can really hear what's going on. Your thoughts, anyone?

## Post 2 by GreenTurtle (Music is life. Love. Vitality.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 14:28:20

Um, described porn? I never heard of such a thing. I don't think that would turn me on anyways. And how do they describe it? Wait, maybe I don't wanna know that, hahaha. But seriously, I don't bother with that stuff, especially since I'm in a relationship. I expect my boyfriend not to look at it, so I wouldn't be a hypocrite. I think it's disrespectful to look at porn when you're in love with someone. It's degrading to them. But that's just me.

## Post 3 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 15:45:46

Porn is good for people who can't get someone for the night. They can watch it and get aroused. I agree with the previous poster. Its disrespectful to watch porn when your in a relationship and in love with that person. I watched porn before. It was just like any other movie. The only difference was they allow the actor and his partner to get naked in front of the screen, but other than that its all the same. It doesn't bother me. I watched one a couple of years back, it started with a guy showering money while the girl started to strip. Its crap. And to answer the question at the beginning of this post, does porn turn me on? No, If you want to get turned on just do the actual thing. You'll feel more excited.

## Post 4 by DancingAfterDark (I just keep on posting!) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 16:30:23

I don't see how watching porn is degrading to your partner if you have one. Do you consider masturbation degrading as well? To me it seems like basically the same thing. It's just another way to get aroused, and it's definitely better than some of the alternatives. Unless you're watching porn because you're not happy with your own sex life, it shouldn't be a problem, and sometimes it can even be helpful, if you're into watching it together.
I personally have never bothered with it--it's all a little too fake for me. I do enjoy well-written erotica, though.

## Post 5 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 16:59:11

Wow, Dark. I couldn't have put it better myself. Yes, if you and your partner both like it, it can be very fun to watch together.

## Post 6 by GreenTurtle (Music is life. Love. Vitality.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 18:10:14

Yes, if you both like it. That's the key phrase there. But I think it's disrespectful because it's like they're saying to you, "look at these hot chicks that do all this stuff that you won't do for me." It's like throwing this slutty image of how girls "should" act in bed right in your face. No, masturbation is not wrong, since you can think of your partner while doing it. My boyfriend loves to do that. There's definitely a difference between getting aroused by someone you love and someone you think is sexy because they're getting shit all over or something disgusting like that. And anyways, porn isn't reality-based. How many people do you know who would actually do half that stuff? That's why it's degrading.

## Post 7 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 18:15:55

That sort of depends on what you watch. The softer core porn doesn't have to be so nasty and degrading. I do actually know a couple who, when they first got married, were having trouble. They litterally couldn't figure out how to fuck. They rented a porno and watched it to help them learn. Believe it or not, porn can be as mild or as dirty as you want.
Well, just for curiosity's sake, let's say you do have a partner. Would you ever film yourselves having sex, then watch it while having sex again? In other words, make your own porn clips?

## Post 8 by GreenTurtle (Music is life. Love. Vitality.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 18:19:12

Maybe, but I wouldn't sell it, or put it on the internet. I think that's sick. But what you do behind closed doors, well, that's your business.

## Post 9 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 18:21:06

Yepk, same here. We're in agreement on that one. *smile*

## Post 10 by blindndangerous (the blind and dangerous one) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 19:26:17

I agree with dez's last post. What u do behing closed doors, is your business.

## Post 11 by SingerOfSongs (Heresy and apostasy is how progress is made.) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 19:48:06

I'd also throw into the topic that people's definition of porn varies. What some consider porn, others don't.

## Post 12 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Sunday, 06-Jul-2008 22:25:35

my x and I watched porn together a lot because it would help us to think of new things to try on each other. Now that I am single it is ok I guess. I do not get off from it though. would rather call a phone sex line or something.

## Post 13 by Daenerys Targaryen (Enjoying Life) on Monday, 07-Jul-2008 6:50:47

I like well written sex stories.

## Post 14 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Monday, 07-Jul-2008 6:59:47

Perhaps I should find a place to submit my few pieces of erotica writings. My problem is that when I sit down to write, it turns into a novel of a story instead of a short erotic piece. I've started several pieces and put them down for the simple reason that I saw that they were going to be too long and developed.

## Post 15 by moyzey (i'm posting? huh?) on Monday, 07-Jul-2008 8:59:46

I agree with chelsea. What's so degrading about it to your partner?
I tend to agree with poster one aswell in that amature stuff is much better. The scripted cheesy movie stuff with music is just pethetic, although, if I'm honest, none of it really does much for me. Again, I agree with chelsea. A well written piece of erotica is much more entertaining for me.

## Post 16 by GreenTurtle (Music is life. Love. Vitality.) on Monday, 07-Jul-2008 10:16:11

What I'm saying is if you watch it by yourself, and get off from it, while you're in a relationship, it's like saying you're not good enough. Watching it together, I never really thought about that, but that would be fine. At least then I would get to see what I'm being compared to, and you're right about the fact you can learn new positions from it. But some of the stuff they do in some porn, like I said before, is degrading in itself in the way that some of the stuff is done. Some of it is quite disgusting, actually.

## Post 17 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Monday, 07-Jul-2008 10:36:07

I'll agree that there's some disgusting porn out there. To me, anything involving piss and/or shit is just plain nasty, but there are those who really get in to it, so to each their own, live and let live. My motive is simply to find out if people like it or not, and why or why not. There's no right or wrong answers here, simply oppinions, and everyone has one. Thanks for sharing yours. But let me say this: There really is some soft core porn out there, such as amateur clips where the girl is simply giving a guy a blowjob, or something similar. See what I mean? Usually, if you are going to buy a porno, they're divided into categories. oral, anal, threesomes, fisting, golden showers... You get what I mean, I hope. You simply pick the category which best suits your needs, leaving the rest alone.

## Post 18 by moyzey (i'm posting? huh?) on Monday, 07-Jul-2008 12:07:00

hmm, I suppose I'm just extremely open minded then. Pretty much nothing disgusts me when it comes to sex, and I wouldn't be afended if my partner watched porn or read erotica while in a relationship with me. In fact, I'd enjoy finding out what really gets her going and think it's a great way of learning new things to try out!

## Post 19 by DevilishAnthony (Just go on and agree with me. You know you want to.) on Saturday, 12-Jul-2008 18:14:59

I really like open minded views such as that. almost anything can be used for good or evil. Let porn be your friend. LOL. That sounds so cheap, I know, but I couldn't resist.