# Getting Your Own Place

Category: Let's talk

## Post 1 by Eleni21 (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 17-May-2008 11:36:33

A few years ago, when I was about 20 or so, I moved upstairs. Our previous tennant died and Mom thought it would be a good idea for me to live on my own for awhile to gain independence. After about two years, finances got in the way and I had to move downstairs again. Now, we're turning the basement into an apartment. It's not that difficult, since it's a finished basement and we already have a kitchen etc down there, but anyway. I'm so excited. When I came back down, it was like I lost a whole way of living. I now had to live with other people again, and even though they were my family, I still felt that I lost alot of independence. Now that I'll be on my own again, I can't wait and am counting the days. Even if spiros doesn't stay, I'll still get to see what it's like to live with just my man, the one person with whom I'm truly willing and able to share my personal space. So what was it like for you when you first moved on your own? Did you live as I do, still in the same house but separated from your family or did you completely move away? If you've lived alone for awhile and then shared space with your partner, did that change the way you did things?

## Post 2 by Albanac (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Sunday, 18-May-2008 4:30:02

Moved out a few years ago. It was difficult at first as I had to get used to doing a lot of things myself, as is true of a lot of people I guess. Now I'm a lot more independant, and wouldn't move back home even if I could. Haven't lived with a partner, and probably never will, so can't answer that bit, but yeah.

## Post 3 by mysticrain (Art is born of the observation and investigation of nature.) on Sunday, 18-May-2008 12:38:43

I finally got my own place last year. I absolutely love it. I've never really had my own space, except for finally having my own personal area within an environment until I was 18. So to now have an entire appartment is fantastic. I don't want to even have a roommate, but might not have a choice seeing as my finantual situation has changed since I moved here. I live about 15 minutes drive from my parents, who live about 5 minutes from each other. I would of course love to have a partner, but I'm thinking that it'll be an adjustment for living together, even though I have a lot of experience with lack of personal space.
Jen

## Post 4 by blw1978 (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Saturday, 07-Jun-2008 2:19:53

Hi, I moved out about 3 years ago. Before that, I had a bedroom in my parents' basement and had my own bathroom. I liked having my own space. But there's nothing like having to run a household by yourself. Moving in is fun too, cause then you can buy all kinds of new stuff. I also love knowing that I can come and go as I please. I will say though that when i first moved in, I was so nervous and overwhelmed that I actually got sick and had to miss school. I soon devoloped a routine, and now I wouldn't want to move back home. I knew how to cook, clean and take care of myself, so I knew I could handle that part. I was mainly overwhelmed at all the new bills I knew would need to be paid like phone and utilities. But now, I just pay everything at the beginning of the month so it's taken care of. As long as you can manage your money and time well and know how to cook/clean you should be fine.