# what do you guys think about ?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by smelly (Generic Zoner) on Sunday, 18-Sep-2011 22:54:56

I was watching this thing on Tv and was curious about others feel about this topic. My questions are not meant to affend anyone.

## Post 2 by Shadow_Cat (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 18-Sep-2011 23:36:10

Um, what questions? I don't see any questions. It's like your topic got cut off or something?

## Post 3 by smelly (Generic Zoner) on Monday, 19-Sep-2011 1:50:04

Sorry about that I guess that is what happens when your in a hurry. polygamy what do you guys think of it? Is it right, wrong?

## Post 4 by SilverLightning (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Monday, 19-Sep-2011 6:02:13

Are you asking what we think of TV? I personally find it a wonderful passtime, though I wish it had a few hundred less minutes of commercials on it. Its also a useful device for playing movies, video games, and other such entertainment.
Politically, I think its liberal. You've never seen a TV that refused to play based on tax bracket have you? They'll play for anyone, definantly liberal.
If that doesn't answer your question, I'm sorry, perhaps you could write your post again with more specific details?

## Post 5 by starfly (99956) on Monday, 19-Sep-2011 10:57:06

Let me answer this because it sorta hits home with me in a religious way. My wife belongs to the LDS church that does not believe in this type of practice, however, because the two churches share the same name people a soom the latter which is "LDS" members mary more then one wife. That grades on my nurves badly! and no I do not believe it is right to mary more then one wife or husband! because maridge is between 2 people not 3,4,5 etc.

## Post 6 by forereel (Just posting.) on Monday, 19-Sep-2011 19:16:39

In the time it was widely practiced, and in some places it is practiced now it has benefits, so I'd say it depends.
I personally don't see it as being wrong, but it requires all involved to believe in the practice, or it simply doesn't work well.

## Post 7 by Texas Shawn (The cute, cuddley, little furr ball) on Tuesday, 20-Sep-2011 16:07:19

dealing with more than one woman with pms in a house is crazy! I think it's just an excuse to get laid more.

## Post 8 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Tuesday, 20-Sep-2011 17:00:19

I think you have to question who really benefits though.
Polygamy is only ever legal between a man and more than one woman (where it is practiced) never one woman to more than one man. The reasoning behind this is obviously genetics and heritage, in so much as that a man needs to be sure that it is he who fathered a child, not be one of several.
However, unfortunately many sects/cultures that practice polygamy are also cultures where women are considered to be less equal to their male counterparts, and marrying into a family where there is more than one wife just proves that.
Polygamy is rife within certain sects of the mormon church (utah anyone?) and some of what has been reported from there is deeply disturbing, with girls forced to marry their uncles, etc, but being too young and naive to actually realise that what is happening is wrong, or too far brain-washed to realise that they are individuals in their own right and should have a choice.

## Post 9 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Tuesday, 20-Sep-2011 17:14:16

Messuring the practivc by its outcomes, I would say it is wrong: you have women with lots and lots of kids, often a very difficutt existence. It is *not* like the Sister Wives show where the man is obviously a high-ranking sales executive or something and so they have a nice house. In ancient times / cultures you only married what you could afford to marry as a man, so this probably prevented some of the modern problems of neglect. But as Sugarbaby points out, the abuse factor is staggeringly high. This is not a bunch of college kids having themselves a group romp and deciding to go to the courtchose to make it official. It's a patriarchal system that leaveasa lot of problems. Also in America these colonies who priatice it throw out the unwanted boys, boys who were previously brainwashed and homeschooled, clearly unfit to work and live in society and must be rehabilitated.
It is an expensive, damaging practice. In societies where it is still practiced legally, the young men, like in ancient cultures, are often killed in warfare or accidents, reducing their numbers. In a post-industrialized society like Asia or the west, it serves no purpose.

## Post 10 by CrystalSapphire (Uzuri uongo ndani) on Tuesday, 20-Sep-2011 18:54:30

I believe it is wrong. I myself feel that marage has became a joke with many and it is supposed to be a thing to be honest, loyal, serious and meaningful. two halves of a whole.

## Post 11 by forereel (Just posting.) on Tuesday, 20-Sep-2011 23:27:44

The benefits when it is practiced as it was meant to be are actually better for women than the alternative.
First you are in a family where the husband cares for you and you have a far less risk of being mistreated. You eat well, your children eat well, and you have a home.
Next, as posted there are rules that say a man can only marry as many women as he can support comfortably. He is not allowed to have wives that are on the streets begging and such thing. It is shameful. If he should be killed in war his family is usually well provided for after his death.
The alternative is you are without a husband, so there for without protection. You must do something to live, so that is domestic slavery, prostitution, or begging on the street. This leads to much mis treatment, diseases, and a not so nice life. There are usually few men to go around, so you are also lonely.
I don’t know about the Mormon church, but I have read that they were putting groups that practiced this for the sake of bragging rights, or to have many women they could mis treat and not care fore. Woman being forced to marry to young, or marry there close family members doesn’t seem correct. That church in Texas I believe it’s called Latter Day Saints, was a spinoff of the Mormon Church and was in court for many of these reasons. It was interesting that many of the women that were of age chose to remain with their husbands, because it was all the family they knew.
In the industrialized world women have a choice, and this is good, but where things are difficult I suppose women would much prefer this type of thing to the alternative.

## Post 12 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Friday, 23-Sep-2011 11:45:24

the way it is currently being practiced, with one man marrying multiple women who often have little or no say in the matter, I definitely do not agree. however, if you're talking polly relationships in general, personally it's not for me, but if everyone is on the same page, in all aspects of the relationship and the equality of it, and everyone involved has equally consented, whether that be three men, three women, two men and one woman, two women and one man, ETC., then go for it. Just leave me out of it.

## Post 13 by hi5 (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 29-Sep-2011 3:47:29

Someone told me that it was actually invented by women as a source of protection a long time ago. I think its cool if all involved can handle it. all independent adults take part in the decision, everyone have their own incomes and jobs, everyone emotionally stable, everyone their own leader; no man/woman deciding he/she is going to have a town of spouses while these spouses only have one. In other words they'll all have as many or as little husbands/wives as they can handle with the blessing of their...ahem, family lol. Then I guess it'd be ok.

## Post 14 by starfly (99956) on Thursday, 29-Sep-2011 14:52:11

Crazy!! just plain crazy. To each of there own but leave me out of it. Take it from someone who has been in the LDS church who does not practice this way of living its sad for that church because all you see mostly is the LDS church who has multy wives plasterd all over the TV. The other churcjh sits idlely buy saying nothing.

## Post 15 by VioletBlue (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Thursday, 29-Sep-2011 17:18:40

If it works like it supposed to, if all parties are there by choice, and that's choice made as an adult, then to me, it seems like a good deal. Ready-made companionship for the wives and kids.
Sometimes, I think I'd like such a life.

## Post 16 by Lisa's Girl forever (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Saturday, 08-Oct-2011 1:21:19

I don't agree.
I feel that marrage. should be between. a one. woman. and one man.
that's all.

## Post 17 by forereel (Just posting.) on Saturday, 08-Oct-2011 12:37:22

It is you don't marry but one woman. You just have several of them, but the women aren't married to each other. Lol

## Post 18 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 08-Oct-2011 16:11:25

As a strong member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day saints I feel I must clear up this misconception. The LDS church (nicknamed Mormons by who knows who) is not a polygamist group of Christians. We are Christians, and we believe in one man, and one woman being married. There was a time long long ago in the mid eighteen hundreds where the LDS did practice poligomy for a very short time. This was done due to the massive persicution which many states were doing to the LDS. Many of the men wer being killed for their beliefs by people who didn't agree with this new church. Many wome lost their husbands to such persicution. Because women at that time were more dependant on their husbands for support (having way fewer rites then they do now), it became permisible for a man to take on more than one woman as his wife, providinghe met certain conditions, and providing his first wife agreed. However, this was only permitted by men who were financially able, and spiritually and morally clean (or as clean as any human can be). When it was no longer needed, this practice was commanded to be discontinued. The "LDS" who now practice it in Utah and other places are "NOT!" part of the true LDS church. They are a fundimentalist sect who broke away. They do not represent this church. I felt I should clear that up, because so many people equate the LDS "Mormons" with that fundimentalist sect.
Anyway, I can certainly see the sociological benifits of a polygamist marriage (assuming all participents are alright with the arrangement, which does occasionally happen I'm sure. But I am a Christian, and my beliefs follow what both the Bible and the Book of Mormon teach - that Marriage is sanctioned by god to be between one man, and one woman. And before any sort of homosexual rites debate arises, let me just say that I have no problem with people being homosexual. They are people just as I am. And while I do not agree with them, I haveno rite to judge.

## Post 19 by forereel (Just posting.) on Saturday, 08-Oct-2011 17:13:15

Well thank you for clearing that up. The church in Texas that has the compound claimed to be your group, and I understand how this happens, so it gets confusing for us that aren't part. I don't know if the Bible actually says one man one woman, nor the book or Mormon, the parts I was allowed to read anyway. They didn't want me to study that text, so made it difficult to obtain in braille. I'd love to get my hands on it for a while though and not have to join the church and go to the study groups.
I do still think that this has its purpose in some settings and places. I think it is far better for the women when practiced correctly than the alternative.

## Post 20 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 08-Oct-2011 17:59:53

Wait what? Who didn't want you reading and studying the bible? or was it the book of Mormon? Either way if you go to www.lds.org you can find both the old and new Testament, te Book of Mormon and the other LDS scriptures (if you'r interested). They are in text, and audio. it's not braille admitedly though. The bible is in the King James version though. It's not the easiest version to read, but it is apparently the most accurate.

## Post 21 by starfly (99956) on Saturday, 08-Oct-2011 23:47:25

ACTUALLY THE BOOK OF MORMAN IS IN BRAILLE> I used to bee long to the church. yes I left but I will not go into why I left here.

## Post 22 by forereel (Just posting.) on Sunday, 09-Oct-2011 14:42:04

The book of Mormon is what I'd like to read. I did have a braille copy, but like I said the group that gave it to me would only give me a volume at a time, and when I said I wasn't interested in joining the church they wouldn't let me finish it. Lol A girl that was part of the group was interested in me, so got me started. For reasons I'll not say it was interesting for her to be so, but it was how it was. Lovely girl, but Mormon to be with her I would not be. Smile.
I'll check that site. I'd love to read it.

## Post 23 by Remy (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 09-Oct-2011 16:27:05

It is my hope that your experience is a very posative one. There's also mormon.org, which is a site dedicated to clearing up some of those misconceptions people may have about us, as well as answering some of the basic questions people generally have.