# Survey: Dating, Love, etc.

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by Click_Clash (No Average Angel) on Friday, 07-Nov-2008 15:03:07

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? No, unless you count the one on Date Night at TSB, which I don't, really.
Been in a relationship? No
Been kissed? No
Been in love? 3 times, none of which has turned into a relationship, unfortunately. But ya just gotta live, learn, and move on.
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Trust, communication, and love. Also, it's important to be willing to stick with someone through thick and thin and do almost anything for them, to the extent that you're not blinded by love and aren't hurting someone else or sacrificing your own happiness unnecessarily.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Yes.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I think they're great if, and only if, everyone involved has a complete understanding of the type of relationship it is.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
No. None, at all. If you're in a committed relationship, then you have no right to hurt the other person by breaking their trust in that manner. And if you're unhappy in a relationship, leave it, for the sakes of all involved.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? No.
Looks? No
Race? No.
Disability? No.
Profession? No.
Income? No.
It's shallow to judge anyone by those characteristics.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Well, I'm not religious; I'm spiritual. And there are several principles of certain religions with which I have big problems, but if the person was open-minded and didn't try to force their beliefs on me, it might work.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
My answer to that is sort of along the same lines as the religion question, but perhaps with a little less leniency. For example, I could never date someone who actively lobbyed against gay rights.
9) Does age matter?
I don't know that I could ever date someone underage, but as for older, age isn't important.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Sense of humor, sensitivity, maturity, an open mind, and the ability to be yourself without worrying about what judgments others make about you.
11) What turns you off?
Shallowness, arrogance, and prejudices.
12) Do you want to get married?
Yes.
13) Do you want children?
Yes, more than I can say.
14) How Many?
8
15) Would you consider adoption?
I hope to adopt a child from Ethiopia and China, as well as from the US.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Yes.
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Yes. They're more work, but if you want it to work, it will.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Well... yeah... I'm just now coming back into the dating world after the last guy I was in love with got together with someone else. But I'd kinda known that was coming and had been preparing myself. So I'm opening back up to other possibilities.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
No. Been there, done that... never again. The next time I have strong feelings for someone, I'm making sure it's not one-sided and moving on if it is.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
Again, hell no. Been there, and learned that someone who really cares about you will accept you and not want to change you.

## Post 2 by DancingAfterDark (I just keep on posting!) on Friday, 07-Nov-2008 17:06:24

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yes.
Been in a relationship? Yes.
Been kissed? Yes.
Been in love? Yes.
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Honesty, trust, respect, boundaries, space.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
I don't know anymore. But for others, it's not my place to judge.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I hate the idea, and in this case I will judge, even though I try not to. Not cool.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
No.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? It's certainly not going to be the deciding factor, but I prefer guys who are taller than me, and not too much overweight.
Looks? Again, not going to be the deciding factor, but sure it matters, to an extent.
Race? No.
Disability? Ummm.
Profession? Yes, again, to an extent.
Income? No. Unless it's a really low income because it's only SSI or something similar.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Don't know anymore. Probably not.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
Yes.
9) Does age matter?
Yes. I haven't figured out my exact limits because it's never been an issue, but it does make a difference to me.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Intelligence, sense of humor, ambition, at least a bit of social awareness, other things.
11) What turns you off?
Clinginess, constant need for reassurance, low self-esteem, arrogance, crudeness.
12) Do you want to get married?
Not really, but I haven't ruled it out completely.
13) Do you want children?
No no no nooooooo!
14) How Many?
-209384743!
15) Would you consider adoption?
Don't think so.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Sure?
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Yes. As long as they're kept away from this place.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Ummm, I guess. I couldn't promise positive results, but I'd like to know.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
To understand my answer to this question you'd have to really know me and how I relate to the opposite sex. Lol. I am in a constant state of wanting someone I can't have, but it's rarely serious.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
Yes, but I don't believe you ever should.

## Post 3 by Emerald-Hourglass (Account disabled) on Friday, 07-Nov-2008 19:23:34

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yes.
Been in a relationship? Yes.
Been kissed? Yes.
Been in love? Yes.
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
trust, open communication, honesty, commitment, adventure, respect
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
not anymore for me..but i have high admiration and respect for those who wait.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
not for me..i think it's sort of stupid actually
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
what kind of question is this? what's the point of being in a relationship if your gonna go out and cheat? stupid..if your gonna play around then just stay single.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? yeah i like taller guys and he can't be overweight.
Looks? yeah, like he doesn't have to be the hottest guy ever, but deffinitly not ugly
Race? No.
Disability? yeah
Profession? yeah, like i don't wanna date a drug dealer or something lol
Income? No. but he better plan on making good income cuz i plan to
it's not shallow to judge by these characteristics..it's called having standards. why would you wanna be with just anybody? that's just me though.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Yeah, don't see myself with an athiest. as long as we share some beliefs then it's all good. i don't have to believe exactly what he does or vice versa, but i don't want someone who'll try to convert me or something either. i'm not that religious anyways, more spiritual if anything since i don't wanna belong to any religion but you have to have god in your life somewhere at least.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
Yes. again the last person i want is a di heart conservative redneck like they seem to have many of over here
9) Does age matter?
Yeah won't date anyone younger than me unless it's like a year or 2 and noone more than 6 years older.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
intelligence, morals, ambition, confidence but not cockiness, sence of humor, caring, considerate, fun, neatness, straight up honesty
11) What turns you off?
Clinginess, constant need for reassurance, low self-esteem, arrogance, crudeness--fully agreed with chelsea here .
12) Do you want to get married?
Yeah eventually
13) Do you want children?
yeah
14) How Many?
2 of my own hopefully a boy and a girl, and might adopt 2 or 3 more
15) Would you consider adoption?
yes
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
yeah
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
depending on cercumstances, yeah
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
no only if i liked them would i want to know
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
I always want what i can't have, including men lol
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
yeah but that shouldn't ever have to be the case unless it was like a good change or something. people can change you for the better without you even really realizing it.

## Post 4 by HotPerro (I live and breathe the board) on Saturday, 08-Nov-2008 2:25:48

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yeah
Been in a relationship? yeah
Been kissed? For sure
Been in love? I’d say so
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Trust, honesty, spice, all those good cliché things.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
For sure, otherwise how would I know if she’s sexually compatible?
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I think they go against human nature, and usually crash and burn.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
I don’t
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? I’d prefer she’s shorter than me, and a healthy weight.
Looks? Not ultimately, but sure.
Race? No.
Disability? Kinda
Profession? Just as long as she doesn’t come home reeking of death…
Income? No.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Not as long as she doesn’t eat babies, and tries to impose it on me.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
I’d get along better with the more liberal types, but I’ve dated a few girls that were politically conservative. Made for fun debates.
9) Does age matter?
Yeah, I probably wouldn’t date anyone over 30, and definitely not under age.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Intelligence, self awareness, someone who’s musically open minded.
11) What turns you off?
Stupidity, lack of a sense of humor, eccessive use of drugs.
12) Do you want to get married?
I’m starting to not be so vehemently opposed.
13) Do you want children?
Oh no no no
14) How Many?
*runs*
15) Would you consider adoption?
Oh yeah, since I don’t want my own children, I’ll take someone else’s, haha.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Sure
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Definitely not for me, as we say in Mexico: amor de lejos, amor de pendejos.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Well, they’re certainly welcome to tell me…
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
I don’t
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
No, I have a hell of a time changing for myself.

## Post 5 by Shadow_Cat (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Monday, 10-Nov-2008 16:04:56

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yes, quite a few.
Been in a relationship? Yes, three serious ones, one of which I'm still in. I tend not to enter an actual relationship if it's just going to be casual.
Been kissed? Yes.
Been in love? Yes, three times.
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
First, open and honest communication. IF a couple has that, it breeds the other necessary things: trust, love, unselfishness. You have to have the love that isn't jjust the warm fuzzy, but that will make you stick by that person in spite of their flaws and weaknesses.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
I used not to. Then, I got sexually active, and now I'm not sure what I believe. I guess it's all an individual's choice. there are pros and cons to both ways.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I guess if that's what floats your boat, but definitely not for me. I've never known an open or multi-partner relationship that turned out well. As someone else said, they usually seem to crash and burn.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
No, absolutely not. Even if it's a shitty relationship, get out of it before you are with anyone else.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? Not really. I notice them, but it's not a big deal.
Looks? Again, not really.
Race? No, definitely not.
Disability? No. I'd be a jerk if I judged on that, given that I'm totally blind.
Profession? No.
Income? No. Money is always nice, but not at all what I judge on.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Yes. I'm a Christian, and don't think I could be with someone long-term who's beliefs were vastly different from mine.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
Again, yes. My politics are tied in with my morals on a lot of things, and I prefer someone who is conservative, or at least moderate.
9) Does age matter?
Yeah, I think it does. I wouldn't want someone a whole lot older or younger than me. Maybe ten years older, three or four years younger would be my range, just to guess.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Good communicator, sense of humor, sensitivity, passionate personality, and I'm not just talking sexually speaking.
11) What turns you off?
Shallow, arrogant, worrier, spineless, or someone who's really formal all the time.
12) Do you want to get married?
Yes.
13) Do you want children?
I'm not sure. I used to say definitely not, now I think maybe.
14) How Many?
Not more than two or three, if any. If I had one, I'd have to have at least two, though. I wouldn't want an only child.
15) Would you consider adoption?
Yes, that's what I'd prefer, actually.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Yes.
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
I don't like them, since I've been in two. But if I had to do it again, I would.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Yes, I'd want them to be honest. But I'd have to refuse them, since I'm in a relationship.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
Nope, I'm happy with my man.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
Maybe temporarily, but I don't think the change is lasting unless you do it for yourself. Another person can give you incentive to make a change that you already want to, but it shouldn't be something you do solely because of them.

## Post 6 by Albanac (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Monday, 10-Nov-2008 17:28:35

Been on a date?
sort of
been in a relationship?
yes
been kissed?
yes
been in love?
yes
What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
agreed with Becky on this one:
trust, communication and loyalty.
Do you believe in sex before marriage?
yes
What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I tend to be a bit relativeist about it. As in, fine for others, but I wouldn't.
Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
absolutely not.
Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight?
weight, no
height, yes, I'm short and so too tall would be difficult.
looks: no.
race: no.
disability: no.
profession: not unless she's the prime minister of israel, grin.
income: no.
Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
To them? Probably.
To me? Only insofar as I would consider them in relation to what I did and said, or at least i'd try to.
Do political beliefs matter?
Yes, I have to say they do.
I have very strong views on certain things, and dating someone who believed the complete opposite just wouldn't work.
Does age matter?
Within reason no.
I don't do under-aged, and couldn't see myself dating someone too much my senior.
Hmm, perhaps yes then lol.
What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Um, well I have multi disabilities, so acceptance there of.
able to think somewhat deeply. i.e let's not discuss shoes and handbags all the time lol.
a nice voice helps, but well you're born with what you're born with, and if it's serious, it's serious, end of story.
What turns you off?
With Becky on this one too.
shallowness, arrogance and prejudices.
Also the inability to adapt to situations.
Do you want to get married?
want to? yes
Do you want children?
yes
How Many?
doesn't matter.
not a tribe, though.
Would you consider adoption?
I'd have to.
Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
yes
Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
if the two people are prepared to work at it, yes.
If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
yes, but there'd be ... things to discuss if we were to do anything about it.
Do you want someone you can’t have?
no
Do you believe that you can change for someone?
why would I have to?

## Post 7 by Marissapc2010 (Zone BBS is my Life) on Monday, 10-Nov-2008 18:41:42

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yeah
Been in a relationship? yeah
Been kissed? Yep
Been in love? Yep
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Trust, honesty, Love, loyalty, understanding and openness
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Yeah. I do
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships? Not for me. I couldn't deal with that. I think they're kind of silly and usually someone gets hurt but, if people want to do it, who am I to say they shouldn't?
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
No, never ok Unless something really weird happends like you get Kidnapped and are threatened that if you don't do something they will hurt you or someone your close to, but that's crazy stuff.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? I like a guy to be a bit taller than me since I'm 5 foot 1, lol, and Weight? I'd prefer him to be some what in shape.
Looks? Not really. I always ask a friend what a guy I'm with looks like but its simpley out of curiousity, He doesn't have to be drop dead sexy or anything. But it would be nice if he was... lol.
Race? No.
Disability? Kinda
Profession? It could. yeah
Income? No.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter? Just as long as they leave me alone about it. They can think what they want, and I can to.
8) Do political beliefs matter? Same as religion.
9) Does age matter? I guess it kind of could. Yeah.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Intelligence, honesty, caringness, interesting, open mindedness, has to like animals.
11) What turns you off? Talking disrespectfully to or about me sexually, arrogance, body oder, someone who doesn't like animals.
12) Do you want to get married? Sure
13) Do you want children?
Oh no no no
14) How Many? No no no. -99999
15) Would you consider adoption? Not for me
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Sure
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships? Yeah. it can work
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you? Yeah for their sake. I no you feel a whole lot better after liking someone and letting it known to them.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
I have before.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone? I agree with Daniel. I have a hard enough time changing for me.

## Post 8 by Coldshadow (supreme commander of the shadow fleet) on Sunday, 30-Nov-2008 0:22:23

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yes
Been in a relationship? yeah
Been kissed? Yep
Been in love? Yep
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Trust, honesty, Love, loyalty, understanding and openness, and have to agree with most of the stuff here.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Yeah, but wouldn’t do it unless my partner felt the same way
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
Not for me, I could never do it
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
Are you crazy? There is no reason someone should ever cheat.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? No
Looks? no.
Race? No.
Disability? no
Profession? no
Income? No.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
No, as long as they don’t try to impose their beliefs on me.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
Same as religion.
9) Does age matter?
Yeah.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Intelligence, honesty, caringness, interesting, open mindedness, trusting, respectful.
11) What turns you off?
Disrespectful people, cheaters, someone who can’t take care of themselves.
12) Do you want to get married?
yes
13) Do you want children?
yes
14) How Many?
A couple
15) Would you consider adoption?
It’s a possibility
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
yes
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Yes, I believe if the couple works at it, it can work.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Yeah, they can tell me
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
I have before.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
Only if the change was good for me.

## Post 9 by cumbiambera2005 (i just keep on posting!) on Sunday, 30-Nov-2008 7:34:40

1) Have you ever:
been on a date?
Depends on the definition of "date". Lol!
Been in a relationship?
Yes
Been kissed?
Kissed? Yes. Really kissed? No. Lol jk!
Been in love?
Do I have to answer that? Lol!
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Communication is the most important. Then comes trust and honesty. It also helps if you have things in common with the person!
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Too late...
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I wouldn't go for it if I'm too attached to the person. if it's someone I'm just with just for the hell of it, then I guess that means I wouldn't care, right? Then i'd be glad to share! Sharing is caring right? Lol!
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
Hell no I dont cheat!
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? not really, although I perfer someone taller than I, because I feel more secure, but that's not essential. And I dont go for someone that's way too fat either, but then again, if I was in love with the person, I dont think that should matter.
Looks? not really. I hate people to judge me by looks, plus I cant see anyway. Lol!
But good looks are a plus, but again, not essential.
Race? Well, not really. However, since I listen to Spanish music, I'd most likely prefer someone who is able to speek fluent Spanish.
Disability? No. As long as they're not mama's boys, I'm fine.
Profession? No.
Income? No. I dont check their wallet before I give them a hug so no!
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
No it's not a big issue. But if I'm choosing to go out with this personn, most likely he wouldn't try and priech to me. Lol!
8) Do political beliefs matter?
No, i'm not that big into politics.
9) Does age matter?
Only to an extent. I dont date guys younger than me, and I'm not going to date someone who is in their 30's, lol!
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
I like a guy who is honest, who is not afraid to speek his mind, and who can open up to me, just like I'd open up to him. i want him to feel comfortable with me and what's going on around him.
11) What turns you off?
Someone who is selfish!
12) Do you want to get married?
Eventually, yes.
13) Do you want children?
I'd love them!
14) How Many?
Well, I'd like at least a girl and a boy, and then whatever comes or does not come after that, I can deal with. I also think it'd be cute to have a set of twins, but a girl and boy twin. Or if not, the boy be older than the girl, but those are just my thoughts!
15) Would you consider adoption?
Definitely!
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Of course!
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Sometimes, it really depends on the relationship in itself.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Oh if only you knew...I cant get them off me. Lol!
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
It always seems that way...yes!
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
No I will not change for anyone! Especially a guy!

## Post 10 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Sunday, 30-Nov-2008 18:01:24

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yes.
Been in a relationship? Yes 3 of them.
Been kissed? Yes miss those, Jordan26.
Been in love? 2 times.
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Trust, communication, romance, and love.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Yes.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I think they are definitely a no no.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
No, none.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? Yes.
Looks? Sort of like hair.
Race? Sort of would not date specific ones.
Disability? No.
Profession? No.
Income? No.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Well, I'm not religious a lot but no it does not really matter.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
Not really as long as they are slightly liberal .I of course could never date someone who actively lobbyed against gay rights. lol.
9) Does age matter?
I have a 20 year gap I will not go over.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Sense of humor, maturity, and an open mind.
11) What turns you off?
Rudeness, not affectionate, and someone who is very dependent.
12) Do you want to get married?
No.
13) Do you want children?
Am not sure.
14) How Many?
Do Not Know.
15) Would you consider adoption?
Yes.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Yes.
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Definitely yes.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Yes why not.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
No.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
Hell no.

## Post 11 by Eleni21 (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 01-Dec-2008 22:15:07

1) Have you ever:
been on a date?
Yes.
Been in a relationship?
I'm in one now and am very happy.
Been kissed?
I sure hope so.
Been in love?
See above. *smile*
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Depends. If it's just a friend with benefits, then safety, good sex, honesty and a decent personality. But if it's a meaningful relationship then I'd include loyalty, ability to handle each other's ups and downs, good listening and communication skills, respect, a good sense of humour and of course, love.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Absolutely. I think it's always a good idea to know what you're getting into before you choose to do something that drastic.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I'm fine with them so long as it really is open, i.e. not one partner can see other people but the other can't (unless it's by choice) or one partner sees other people and doesn't tell the other one. Also, the new partner/s need to understand their position.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
Not unless, say, the partners discussed it before hand. An example is "if one could no longer have sex and told the other it was okay to have another partner or if they discussed something like if one went into a coma or had brain injuries and was mentally incompetant, the other partner could see someone. Note that I don't consider it cheating if the partners are separated from one another for an extensive period of time (two years or more) with no attempt at real communication.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight?
Not really, though I do like a guy on the shorter side and not fat. I got him.
Looks?
The older the better. Mmm. And looking Greek isn't too bad at all.
Race?
Absolutely. Must be white, preferably Greek.
Disability?
Not really, though I don't think I could be with someone who was mentally retarded. I meant that literally. Deafness would be a challenge, since I'm totally blind, but I'd be willing to work through it if I really loved the guy.
Profession?
lol No, so long as it wasn't hard drugs or anything bad involving children/animals.
Income?
No, though I'm not fond of those rich guys who think they rule the world.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Only if they proselitise/try to convert me to their religion or are unwilling to have sex.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
A bit but not enough to ruin the relationship. So long as he wasn't a real conservative, i.e. no abortion, gay rights, stem cell research etc, it might work.
9) Does age matter?
Yes, I love my men older. I'd prefer at least 30 and up at the least. I'm 25 and my bf is 63. I could never imagine going with someone younger than I. Also, tripple digits scare me. haha
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
I think that's sort of along the lines of the relationship question asked earlier. Openness, honesty, willingness to listen, maturity, not a harsh judge, funny, can hold a conversation, good heart, respectful, into sex, has interesting life experiences.
11) What turns you off?
Lyers, cheaters, fakers, abuse of any kind, immaturity, disrespect and not having anything in common.
12) Do you want to get married?
Yes, very much. But we'll see what happens.
13) Do you want children?
Not really. He already has two grown sons and doesn't want anymore and I'm leaning towards no. But if we break up, or when he dies, for I know he'll go before me, I might have some with a new partner. I know he'd want me to find someone else and be happy. Ug, bad thought!
14) How Many?
One, two at the most. Also, I wanna be situated in Greece if I have them.
15) Would you consider adoption?
Definitely. Nothing against that.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Absolutely! We celebrated our first year together on 12 July 2008. *smile*
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Sometimes, though I'd rather not be in one.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
Only if they were prepared to hear a "no" from me. Of course, if it's my bf, I'd love for him to tell me and there's another exception answered after this.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
Yes, a mangas/rebetis. But I haven't found and don't know him yet. You'd have to understand the kind of music I love to know what I'm talking about. I don't want a relationship with him, just friendship and to squeeze in a night of sex. My bf knows and is okay with it.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
No, nor would i want to. I mean, a few changes here and there, such as patience, ability to compromise and to see the other side of things is fine. But to really change I wouldn't do it to anyone and would hope they wouldn't try to do it to me.

## Post 12 by Coldshadow (supreme commander of the shadow fleet) on Monday, 01-Dec-2008 22:40:09

63? wow...and your 25.

## Post 13 by Eleni21 (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Tuesday, 02-Dec-2008 13:18:23

Yep. *smile*

## Post 14 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 03-Dec-2008 0:09:42

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? Yes.
Been in a relationship? Yes.
Been kissed? Yes.
Been in love? Yes.
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Trust, honesty, respect, open communication effort, and commitment.
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
Yes, it’s worth it to wait for the right person, and not just give it up to anyone for the moment.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
No way, it does not work that way. I strongly disagree.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
What kind of question is this? What’s the point of being in a relationship if you’re going to go out and cheat? This is a very stupid question. If your going to play around then you’re better off single. No matter what the circumstances is, cheating is not right.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? Yes, to a certain extent, but it should not dominate your opinions about the person you like.
Looks? If I was to describe the perfect look that I want in a guy, lets see. Dark hair, brown eyes, taller than me, average weight, dresses simple, but presentable, smells good, and has a cute smile.
Race? No.
Disability? Yeah, its okay if the person is blind, but it’s not okay if he has psychological and cognitive delays.
Profession? Yeah, I admire guys that take the time to put themselves to college, and get a stable career because it shows their character and what they value in life.
Income? Sometimes because how can you both have fun if you cannot even pay for a date? Having a stable job is important because it will keep you in control and independent of your life. It’s a great feeling knowing that your depending on yourself for anything. At least, you know that you do not owe anyone anything. It’s not shallow to judge by these characteristics, it's called having standards. Why would you want to be with just anybody? If you work hard, you should also find someone who knows who to work harder because if your not in the same page, you will end up working for the both of you. By the way, I do not like lazy people. They irritate me a lot because they keep on complaining and they keep on saying that they are bored, but in reality, there’s too many things that needs to be done, and that requires their time and effort. Instead of sitting around and complaining, working toward a task is a better choice.
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
sometimes, but I think the most important thing is just to have respect for each other’s beliefs because I’m sure not everyone will agree on the same things.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
sometimes, but not to a certain extent. My opinion on this is the same as what I wrote from the last question.
9) Does age matter?
Yeah won't date anyone younger than me.
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Honesty, respectful, passionate, easy to talk to, trust worthy, funny, knows how to keep his promises, intelligence, good morals and good manners, has an ambition; someone that knows what he wants, is open minded, confident, has a good sense of humor, caring, hard working, courageous, patience, considerate, and outgoing. Someone real.
11) What turns you off?
Clinginess, constant need for reassurance, low self-esteem, arrogance, crudeness--fully agreed with chelsea here . And some other addional turn offs such as bad personal hygiene, disorganized, people who are too negative about everything, aggressiveness, and last but not the least, people who are not honest. That should probably be the one on top of my list.
12) Do you want to get married?
Yes, after I graduate from college.
13) Do you want children?
Yes, someday.
14) How Many?
2 of my own hopefully a boy and a girl.
15) Would you consider adoption?
Yes
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
Yes, lets party.
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Yes, its really hard, but if you both want it to work out, both of you will give equal efforts to make it work. Its just simple as give and take.
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
If the person decides to tell me.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
No, I would never force myself to anyone. If do not want me, they should be honest about it. I would rather hear the truth than be lied to.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
Yes and No. Yes if it would make me a better person, but no for the wrong reasons. If he cannot accept me for who I am then he is better off with another girl. I will not change for anyone unless if its for a positive thing.

## Post 15 by Daenerys Targaryen (Enjoying Life) on Wednesday, 03-Dec-2008 2:20:14

1) Have you ever:
been on a date? yes
Been in a relationship? yes
Been kissed? yes
Been in love? yes
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
having things in common, good communication, trust, love
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
yes
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
I have never been in a relationship like that but I would be willing to try it
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
No
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? height no weight kind of
Looks? no
Race? yes
Disability? no
Profession? no
Income? no
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
no as long as we don't try to force our beliefs on one another, must be ok with sex before marage, must be ok with gay marage
8) Do political beliefs matter?
yes must be more liberal
9) Does age matter?
noone younger than eighteen and no more than ten years older than me
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
someone I can trust with everything, someone who knows how to be serious but also how to have fun, someone who will be there for me through the good and bad times
11) What turns you off?
someone who is not honest, someone that's very controling
12) Do you want to get married?
yes
13) Do you want children?
yes
14) How Many?
at least two
15) Would you consider adoption?
maybe
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
yes
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
yes
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
yes
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
I have before
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
no

## Post 16 by Sword of Sapphire (Whether you agree with my opinion or not, you're still gonna read it!) on Sunday, 18-Jan-2009 15:30:46

1) Have you ever:
been on a date?
Oh, most certainly.
Been in a relationship?
Yes
Been kissed?
No
Been in love?
Yes
2) What, in your opinion, are the most important things in a relationship?
Ah yes, the four c's: communication, compromise, credence, and commitment
3) Do you believe in sex before marriage?
No, but it could happen.
4) What are your opinions on open and multi-partner relationships?
Uh, no. You're either in a relationship, or you're not. That's not really a relationship. Well, okay, it's a friendship, but they're friends with benefits.
5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is oK?
Hell no! If one must cheat, one must leave.
6) Do any of these matter in a guy/girl:
Height/weight? yes.
Looks? No.
Race? No.
Disability? No.
Profession? yes.
Income? No.
Well, I must be a few crumbs of shallow! lol
But what if a person is a stripper, escort, or ponographer? I know one thing, I'm sure as hell not sticking around!
7) Do a guy/girl's religious beliefs matter?
Um, most certainly. There are some religions that I just turn my nose up at.
8) Do political beliefs matter?
No.
9) Does age matter?
I'm not for dating guys younger than me. Maybe by a year or less, but over that: nopers!
10) What are the most important characteristics to you in a guy/girl?
Sense of humor, sensitivity, maturity, an open mind, self esteem, and the ability to ignore judgment
11) What turns you off?
Self-doubt, and extreme ignorance and/or immaturity
12) Do you want to get married?
Yes.
13) Do you want children?
No! Never in your life! Well, not babies.
14) How Many?
negative zero!
15) Would you consider adoption?
Perhaps. But no trinkets under the age of six or five.
16) Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries?
It doesn't realy matter to me.
17) Do you believe in long-distance relationships?
Of course!
18) If someone liked you right now, would you want them to tell you?
I just left the dating world. I don't really care if anyone besides my boyfriend likes me.
19) Do you want someone you can’t have?
Sure.
20) Do you believe that you can change for someone?
I don't believe I should or will change for anyone. Yes, I could, but wouldn't.