# Anyone have success with online dating?

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by Orin (Veteran Zoner) on Friday, 14-Dec-2012 23:59:35

Hi all,
I know there are quite a number of people who have either met people via The Zone, Twitter and then Skype and so fourth, but has anyone had success with online dating sites? I don't really care if the site provides matches for you, but I know some sites make you try those matches only, and I've scene sites that allow both options and these are the sites I prefer, both options.
If the site allows Facebook connect, I'd prefer it not announce to everyone, if I even use it, that I'm trying out the service. If it did, the stupid gossip would begin on my Facebook of OMG he's blind he's not ready to date yet and all this shit that I could do without on my FB lol.
Thanks all, was curious if anyone had any success.

## Post 2 by write away (The Zone's Blunt Object) on Saturday, 15-Dec-2012 5:29:47

Not really sure what you mean--Are you asking whether you can use a facebook app of a dating site to connect with your matches? Because I do think that your facebook apps appear in your profile.
As for online dating in general, I've never tried an actual dating site, but I have met someone online and have been with him for over four years now. We're planning a wedding and raising our little ten-month-old very successfully, so I can vouch for the idea in general. It does work and can be very rewarding. And as for gossip, I can see how you may find it awkward if people start talking, but I also think you should do whatever's best for you and don't give a flying leap about what people might have to say. Your dating life is between you and your prospective partner or partners, not your mom, dad, aunt, neighbor or any passersby. Especially if the main thing anyone gossips about is that you're blind and have no business dating.
That couldn't be farther from the truth. My fiance and I are both totally blind and we're managing to be a couple and care for a small child quite well. Just because you're blind you shouldn't have to miss out on all of life's joys, including finding a prospective mate. And if anyone thinks otherwise, it's their problem not yours.

## Post 3 by TechnologyUser2012 (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 15-Dec-2012 12:51:38

My thoughts exactly to the last poster. very well said.

## Post 4 by forereel (Just posting.) on Sunday, 16-Dec-2012 17:49:53

Yes I agree. I have had some success, and met some people. If success means sticking together no, but that is what dating is for.
The writer has good points as well.

## Post 5 by Lisa's Girl forever (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Wednesday, 26-Dec-2012 6:11:10

Yes. i've ment someone and i'm happily with my partner. It's been allmost two wonderful years. .. it's worth it.

## Post 6 by Runner229 (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Wednesday, 26-Dec-2012 22:59:21

I've never used a precise dating site, so sorry I can't exactly help you. I will say my opinion has changed about the idea of online dating.
I guess you could say I was old school. I used to prefer meeting a person in person. I also didn't see the point of trying to date someone unless they lived close to you, because I figured it is important to be there physically. Now, I see it differently. It may take a great deal of commitment and work, but realistically that's how any relationship will work out in the best way, online or not.

## Post 7 by forereel (Just posting.) on Friday, 28-Dec-2012 2:12:45

Using a dating site and meeting are to different things.
I'll use a site, but I still want to meet the person in a short time. Say 2 or 3 months.
I don't call it dating until we have met face to face and liked each other, otherwise it is an interesting online, telephone, email friend.

## Post 8 by BryanP22 (Novice theriminist) on Friday, 28-Dec-2012 21:18:30

I'm the same way. I might use a dating site to break te ice with someone but it's important to me that sooner or later we meet face to face and see how that sort of interaction goes. If it goes well the first time we can meet again and, if down the road things continue to go well then maybe we can see about a relationship.

## Post 9 by Runner229 (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 29-Dec-2012 0:12:26

I wouldn't consider dating somebody if I didn't think it was possible for us to ever meet. It amuses me when people on here hook up with each other, but live on separate continents.
Also, I think the majority of people who date online are too quick in making the decision to date. They don't take the time to seriously get to know the other person. They may ask the other person's interests, favorite movies, hobbies, etc. However, they don't go beyond that, hence a lot of them failing, as they should. If you are not serious about dating, yet the other person is or vice versa, it can be hurtful. Or, you could move too fast and get caught up with someone who you regret putting the time and effort in to.

## Post 10 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Saturday, 29-Dec-2012 14:20:59

I hear Match.com is likely to suggest people in your local area. If I were to use a site, I would use one that required a credit card so I would be sure of age before any contact at all. I'm a male, and thus careful about these things, since by virtue of having a penis it would be very easy to be guilty before proven innocent.
The same goes for females though: You want to make sure the guy you actually want to meet up with has some legitimacy if you're doing this online, so meeting through a service that uses a credit card at least ensures you're looking at material which points to a real human with the name attached to it. Of course, like safer sex, this a safer online practice. Not 'safe' but 'safer', meaning your own judgment calls ought to trump any of these things.

## Post 11 by BryanP22 (Novice theriminist) on Saturday, 29-Dec-2012 19:49:39

Yeah. Because meeting someone through Myspace.com let's say, you never know if you're getting someone of legal age. I've seen girlson there as young as 14 but they were registered as being 28. I of course flagged them, not that that usually did much good.

## Post 12 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Sunday, 30-Dec-2012 10:42:14

I haven't had luck with online dating, but like everything, I believe it has its successes and its failures. so, if you wanna give it a try, I say go for it.

## Post 13 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Sunday, 30-Dec-2012 19:55:04

online dating has changed so much over the years. I remember way back in the 90's radio station did these love connection things and also some had a number to call for matches over the phone and a dating profile. Now you can connect the dating profile to fb and with a click of a moush you can get matches instantly who might live a block away from you. I believe online dating works. I know 2 married couples who are a testimony of 2 different sites. I think though as many others on here have said that meeting is a must. I would definitely if was still single give it 2 months and then if they don't wanna meet then goodbye.

## Post 14 by BryanP22 (Novice theriminist) on Monday, 31-Dec-2012 8:34:55

Oh it's definitely successful when it's done properly. And I remember the radio station thing. Back whenI lived in Portland, Oregon the R&B station Z100 used to do something like that on weekends called Desperate and Dateless. sually one guy or girl would come down to the radio station and the host would call up three girls or guys depending on what was wanted. So the initial date seeker would describe what they were looking for. Then the three potential matces would describe themselves and what they were looking for and the seeker would pick from one of the three depending on who most closely matched what they were looking for.

## Post 15 by Dave_H (the boringest guy you'll ever know) on Monday, 31-Dec-2012 18:01:55

If you and your online dates keep exchanging messages and never meet, you're pen-pals. LOL. The matching services are tools to make it easier to make initial connections. The quality of the relationship that develops after the early meetings is up to the people involved. So, use your favorite online and offline tools, go for it; have fun; and be safe!
Happy New Year,
Dave H.

## Post 16 by changedheart421 (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Friday, 04-Jan-2013 22:53:42

lol. the station I knew was R&B too. It was a local station and the DJ;s wife actually was in the studeio taking calls from prospective love interests of the people who would call and the DJ would put live on air. I use to think they must have had a bunch of phone lines lol.

## Post 17 by forereel (Just posting.) on Saturday, 05-Jan-2013 12:15:44

Was she going out on dates too? Lol

## Post 18 by Maiden of the Moonlight (Zone BBS is my Life) on Monday, 21-Jan-2013 8:07:21

I used to be all for online dating, but now I'm skeptical. It's imparitive to meet the person before you dive into anything serious, or shit gets awkward... Even if you get to know the person incredibly well online, and you know their inner most secrets, and they're actually being truthful, you still can't possibly know how they interact with you or others face to face, and that's so important to knowing if they're the one for you or not. Yeah, I've online dated, and it was fun in it's own way, but I definitely think it would have gone much better if I had met the guys I dated in a timely fashion. I'm not saying it doesn't work or that I would never, ever consider it again, but meeting face to face is more important than we sometimes think. I mean hell, even when you're really good friends with someone, I think it' sbetter to meet them in person.

## Post 19 by BryanP22 (Novice theriminist) on Monday, 21-Jan-2013 17:01:56

I agree completely. But even then you sometimes can't really know a person until you live with them, even just for a relatively short time. Because even if a person is a good match for you personality wise they may not be in other ways. I'm sure as blind folks most of us have things in their proper place and like them to stay there. Sighted folks don't always realize or respect that. My most recent girlfriend certainly didn't and there was always stuff all over the place.. Even the couch served more as a coffee table than a couch. And she tended to just pile stuff haphazardly so that it would inevitably fall off. And yet she would get mad when the dogs got a hold of it and chewed it to shreds.