# Which Would You Choose

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by MusicPrincess (Newborn Zoner) on Thursday, 16-Dec-2004 12:43:00

If you had the choice between being with someone who would be willing to do anything with you sexually and someone who would draw the line as to how far they would be willing to go with you sexually, which one would you choose? And which person would you respect more?

## Post 2 by wildebrew (We promised the world we'd tame it, what were we hoping for?) on Thursday, 16-Dec-2004 13:21:43

The first person of course.
As long as you love the person, the person loves you and you both want the same thing dragging some artificial line about what we can and canno experiment with just doesn't seem right to me.
I think sex is a beautiful, not a dirty thing. Of course it has to be between two people who are secure and both confortbable and happy with each other. I wouldn't want e.g. to sleep with someone on a first date or a second date and I would enter a relationship just for sex, it would be meaningless. But if I was dating a girl who wanted to try something and it'd make her happy I'd probably try it with her. I do drag the line at hand cuffs and games involving pain or rstriction of movement of course, but in general I believe in two people working things out between them and experimenting and trying to be everything the other person desires. I know there are people who have different opinions and that's fine with me but that's my 2 cents.
cheers
-B

## Post 3 by saiyan4414 (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Thursday, 16-Dec-2004 13:52:46

I'd choose who ever God put me with no matter who it was.

## Post 4 by wildebrew (We promised the world we'd tame it, what were we hoping for?) on Thursday, 16-Dec-2004 14:01:24

Sai, well, God does not come down with a name, address, phone number ans social security number handing it to you saying "ho, here, this is the person you're supposed to be with". I'm afraid you got to figure that out for yourself sometimes. But your point is good in that, honestly, I don't think this is something I'd ask myself, you love someone or you don't, their sexual willingness or preferences or taste should just be a part of their personality and something you accept and learn and grow with that person. If they want to try something weird, be open, if they don't want to do something, be understanding, if you do or do not want to do something you talk about it with the person you're with and work it out. I don't think you should ever date for sexual reasons only, but I also believe sex can be important in a relationship and it's something that people need to be open and talk about and it's honestly not an issue of respect.
cheers
-B

## Post 5 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Friday, 17-Dec-2004 9:19:26

Ultimately I'd choose the one with self esteem and respect for themselves,otherwise your stuck with a victim and they can become incredibly boring after a while.

## Post 6 by sparkie (the hilljack) on Friday, 17-Dec-2004 22:53:40

I'd choose the one that drew the line as I am someone who would draw the line somewhere myself.
Troy

## Post 7 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Saturday, 18-Dec-2004 10:19:52

Wildebrew your wrong in the world of extreme sex S&M Bondage ect if you lack respect you may well put your partner in hospital,there has to be respect and trust on both sides when your indulging in this kind of thing otherwise you are both in grave danger.
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Also if there's a lack of respect in a relationship how can you build on each others confidence and make a commitment to each other, yes love is paramount but without real respect and trust thats damned near impossible.

## Post 8 by asdfghjkl (Account disabled) on Monday, 20-Dec-2004 20:25:32

well i agree with tony aka saiyan4414 up in here, whoever god puts me with. im going thru a lot emotionally right now and have been hurt and lied to and stabbed in the back and denied numerous times, and i am not quite ready for a relationship, but i know god will bring someone awesome into my life sooner or later if it is in his perfect will and plan.

## Post 9 by mdyer1 (Account disabled) on Friday, 24-Dec-2004 21:01:58

I myself would chuse to be with the person who is willing to try something new. I myself would like to be able to exparement with someone who I have been dating for a while. I do have to agree that if there is something you or your partner do not feel comtable then you should talk about it and try to make compormize.

## Post 10 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Friday, 15-Apr-2005 8:17:18

Hm. Well, as I am the type who would not do everything sexually (but pretty much), I would choose one who would draw a line on how much he would do. But the line should not be drawn only till kissing or something like that.

## Post 11 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 21-Apr-2005 0:56:40

i would chose the person with limitations. i will also respect that person.
That person without limitations well SORRY he does not know the meaning of the word responsibility and facing the consequences of his actions What is it just being happy at the moment? No wy i dont wana be with that kind of person.

## Post 12 by SensuallyNaturallyLiving4Today (LivingLifeAndLovingItToo) on Monday, 04-Dec-2006 17:01:27

I would choose the one who can draw a line, provided that it is a line that can be adjusted, discussed and if neccessary over time re-drawn. It is good to have boundries and clear cut lines, just so long as you aren't close minded and think only in terms of black and white with no grey area. I wouldn't want someone who would do anything in terms of sex. What if they turned out to be someone who would do anything in life? Drinking paint thinner on a dare, leaving a child unattended because they wanted to go have a good time, killing someone because they have something you want, breaking a promise just because they can't be bothered to keep it, lying because it's easier? I don't think so. Not in a million years. Sexual openness is important to me, but it isn't everything. Besides, with good communication, respect and trust the line set by either partner could be adjusted if the circomstances or feelings changed the situation. There should always be a line, a starting point. It can be updated, changed, reassessed as time goes on, but it should always exist, at whatever level it happens to be at.

## Post 13 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Wednesday, 01-Jul-2009 18:26:33

The second one