# unsure of what to call this topic.

Category: Health and Wellness

## Post 1 by The_Bloody_Vampire (Generic Zoner) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 0:13:21

Ok, I am so tired of people telling me, how to eat and it is driving me nuts. So what I finally made my decision. I am going to make everyone happy witch is, I am not going to eat anymore. I know it is not healthy but there are a lot of foods, that they are saying that is not good for you. So what is the point of eatting then?
I am not feeling sorry for myself if that's what people think.

## Post 2 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 0:40:59

You know that will eventually kill you, right? starvation's not the right way to go. Have you seen a counsilor about this?

## Post 3 by The_Bloody_Vampire (Generic Zoner) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 1:16:17

yes. I am seeing a counsilor right now. It will make everybody happy though. Starvation is my only bet. My family says that I am fat and it hurts me a lot. You know when I call y uncle to see, how he is doing I always get, "hamburger" is calling you.
That hurts really bad you know? I told him several times that it hurts, but he still does not get it.
So, if I starve myself maybe he will stop.

## Post 4 by SunshineAndRain (I'm happily married, a mom of two and a fulltime college student.) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 2:02:18

Well... You may not like this, but... Here goes. You are not only feeling sorry for yourself by doing this, but you are actually being very selfish. If you starve yourself, you will become seriously ill, perhaps even cause serious damage or even death. I'm sure if you have indeed spoken to a therapist about this, they have disagreed with you wholeheartedly. You are making a very unwse and stupid decision, that could take your life, and cause your family that do care about you, great grief if you do in fact become seriously ill or die. I struggle wiq a weight problem, and there are plenty of things you can do to make yourself feel better. It may not take care of all your problems, but diet, exercise, propper rest and relaxation techniques can help you feel more in charge of your body. As I said, I struggle wiqh a weight problem, and as a teen and young adult, have dealt with the criticism of others. I've done everything from eating less to drinking alcohol and smoking as a teenager, and none of these things helped with my weight or my It was when I finally stopped doing these things to please others, and instead worked to be healthy for myself, that I finally quit being so negtive. self-esteem. Love your body the way God made it, and who cares what others think. HTh.

## Post 5 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 2:14:49

Yes it is hurtful if people especially family call you names and say you're fat. However if you could get over those things then it might not be worth trying to change yourself, your appearance for anyone. If someone has to prod you to make you self conscious then that not a good start really. Besides most people that starve themselves or go on a water diot loose that weight as they plan but gain it back real fast once they start eatting regularily again. So instead of wasting your effort to please people that hurt you maybe you should find a different crowd of people to have impressed uppon you. For instant (and I know I'm not alone on this) I like someone who's thick. I think that's sexy. Judging from previous conversations I've had with numerous people, lots of them are on the same page. So I think you might befriend some different people instead of being impacted by some might be shallow individuals.

## Post 6 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 3:17:36

As others have said, Please don't starve yourself! It's very dangerous. So what if people call you names. Just ignore them and know that there are better people out there.

## Post 7 by Thunderstorm (HotIndian!) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 4:47:20

dam alleigh, I dono how to explain it but I'll try my best.
I can remember a proverb which my teacher use to say in my school quiet often. and that is, "when the health is lost, something is lost. when the wealth is lost, nothing is lost. but, when the character is lost, everything is lost". Even though they have mentioned something as per the health in that proverb, I feel that is most important one....
As we're being a handicapped, we have to safeguard our physic for sure. Imagine, if we're loosing one more part in our body, what will happen? As you said, just for being fat your family is teasing you, and if suppose, because of your starving decision, if you are getting ill, how will they treat you?
So, what I'd like to say is, live for yourself. don't live for others. do what you like. don't even think of other's comment about it. To be honest with you, I'm also a over weight person as per the indian average weight. I weigh 80 kilos. i dono how to say that in pounds. but I'm sure, 2.2 pounds is one kilo. and many of my friends use to call me as "eruma maadu" in tamil. which is, bull in english. but, i don't mind their words. I'm still going on eating and getting more fatter and fatter. hehehehe.
So, as i said above, fuck off the other's comments and live for yourself and grow up fatter and fatter like me....
hugs. hope you will surely think of these advices and will come to a good conclusion.

## Post 8 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 5:40:52

Okay, that last part isn't going to make her feel any better.

## Post 9 by OrangeDolphinSpirit (Despite the cost of living, have you noticed how popular it remains?) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 6:39:03

*laughs at Raaj* You're hilarious! LOL.
But seriously, starving yourself is not the way to go. I know you're upset, and believe me, comments like that from your own family are very hurtful. I've been there. My mom still likes to say things to me, but you know what? It's all up to you. I know it's easier said than done, but you gotta ignore them. If you really want to lose weight, do it for yourself. Eat healthy. (And by healthy, I don't mean a frigging SlimFast diet.) Go for walks. Start small, OK? Don't stop eating altogether.
You will get very, very sick and weak without food. Think about what you eat. Do you eat things with a lot of salt? Salt makes you retain water. Do you eat a lot of fried stuff? That can also contribute to your problem. But come on, please don't stop eating. When you have to cook for yourself, leave the salt out. Food tastes good without salt, you know. Don't fry your food. If you drink a lot of soda, cut down to maybe one can a day. I'm struggling with this, too. You get what I mean?
Keep in mind that losing weight won't happen overnight, but stick with a plan, and you can do it if you want to.
-- Allie

## Post 10 by redgirl34 (Scottish) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 10:03:15

I have a weight problem to but it is in my family. I weigh about £235. But starving yourself isn't the answer. As the last post said eat healthy and takes walks. I strugle to do theese things to and I love my chocolate.

## Post 11 by Damia (I'm oppinionated deal with it.) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 15:02:27

oh no you don't feel sorry for yourself at all which is why you made this board right? Ok I'll be nice... seriously though. Putting this kind of stuff on a public board is rather.... silly? You need to see not only a councelar, but if you are concerned about your weight how about joining something such as weight watchers, or see a dietition. I am sure that inturance will cover something like that.
Try walking more and if you can't do that start yourself a cardio and strenggth training exersize in your home. It is not expensive to buy some hand weights and is pretty easy to find some different exersizes to do with them. You can always do things such as crunches, push ups, streching, and walking/marching/jogging in place to music in the privacy of your own home. Maybe find a vidio with some instructions on it to do a home work out, but start slow,and try to eat right. Try to keep all the colors in your diet and if you eat allot cut back, but don't stop eating. If they say all food is bad for you, starving is just as bad. You can ruin your heart, hurt your stomach, throw off your mattabolism, and all kinds of other nasty stuff to your body. It isn't worth the high cost to your pocket, your inturance company or to your health. If these things don't help you perhapse you should see a doctor about supplaments or problems with your patuitary gland, but try some stuff other than starvation first. Please disregard the beginning of this post. My friend and sister both did this, and it has scarred them for life, and gave my friend a health condition that she can now never get rid of. I don't like hearing all the sad stories that result from foolishness such as this. Be smart, and try to be healthy.

## Post 12 by Senior (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 20:56:36

It is true that refusing to eat can cause you to die but if you cross a road and somebody is driving dangerously then you will also die. If you eat fatty foods then apparently you'll die from that too. If somebody was to complain to me about what I eat and how much I eat I would simply explain to them that I am free to decide what I eat and how much I eat and I will do so. I would also explain that being unhealthy is far better than being healthy. Unhealthy food tastes better and the mood in McDonalds is usually more positive than that in one of those health shops full of depressed people who think that by eating some healthy food they'll live a longer and therefore greater life. There is no proof that living longer is greater than dying of a huge heart attack aged 64.

## Post 13 by Dubstep1984 (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 22:19:30

eeeeew. unhealthy food tastes horrible. mcdonalds is nasty. give me a nice grilled chicken and avacado wrap any day.

## Post 14 by Dubstep1984 (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 10-Mar-2008 22:23:35

i ate mcdonalds for breakfast this morning after my eye appointment and nearly threw up the food was so nasty and greacy

## Post 15 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Tuesday, 11-Mar-2008 13:09:18

the whole idea with food for me is that it must taste good. It doesn't matter fast food, vegetarian food, hell even the fake meat stuff made of tofu. Just so long as it's presented in a way that I might like. The Chinese make a desert thing with tofu that's pretty good. They put all sorts of fruits in it. Oh as well as I wouldn't want to make public certain things, I understand someone would use these forms to reach out if they feel they need to. So maybe that's why someone would share some of this as the topic of this board suggests. Even if you took the most extreme example. Say someone putting out a topic about they're being fed up with shit and they want to finish themselves, you would hope that maybe reaching out to people reading it, it might put them a bit at ease if they're needing people at a time where they might not have anyone. Most people will say things desperate things as a last resort but they might still be talked out of their feelings. Call it what you will and I don't think I've reached a point where I need such an outlet to vent or otherwise but it might be helpful to someone else. It's a possibility. I think we're in a time of day where people want to be open and perhaps the mutual bond they might have with strangers could be benefiting to talk about anything personal or otherwise. Maybe some things one might not be comfortable taking up with friends and family if they're not aware of particular matters. It's getting to be more acceptable to be closer to people you don't even know.

## Post 16 by Dubstep1984 (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 11-Mar-2008 20:02:44

oh yes of coarse. i agree with you on that one. and as for food tasting good, yes that is a must with me as well.

## Post 17 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 1:17:53

funny I see your rank message i guess it is before your comments about food.

## Post 18 by louisa (move over school!) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 9:24:36

Hello, don't starve yourself, it won't help or solve anything, will only make things worse. I do feell that those remarks said by your familly should be stopped they are not right at all. If the counceler you are going too, has good insight, some compassion and understanding, he or she would be able to give you some good advice on what to do. All the best and good luck to you.

## Post 19 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 13:39:45

yeah family always says the dumbest crap and you need to know where to stop taking it to heart. For instant my dad likes to tell me I'm useless. Compared with my bro I mean. In this family I have a mom and my bro has a dad. I don't hate my dad but I certainly won't really consider certain things he says and yeah a few years back he tried going to rout of me putting on the pounds but I didn't pay any mind to it. So learn to filter out some of the things coming from your family and if your friends are involved, then if it's that bad, it 's time to cut em off. At least with family you can't just cut them off but friends are to our choosing.

## Post 20 by Dubstep1984 (I just keep on posting!) on Thursday, 13-Mar-2008 1:09:15

oh help me, i'm stuck to my chair? lol. yeah i guess that is a bit wierd seeing as i am talking about really healthy food huhh. lol.

## Post 21 by The_Bloody_Vampire (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 13-Mar-2008 3:42:28

Yesterday, a friend of mine told me that I needed to lose wait. So everytime someone says that to me, I feel very down and hurt. My counceler is helping right now. She is a really good one.

## Post 22 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Thursday, 13-Mar-2008 10:45:06

well to quote a good friend of mine: "Fat's where it's at" and I second the motion

## Post 23 by Dubstep1984 (I just keep on posting!) on Thursday, 13-Mar-2008 13:28:36

oh my... i just wish people would stop forcing their standards of what looks good and what doesnt. i mean, come on. my friend is pretty nice looking even though she is really overweight. she is very healthy too.

## Post 24 by medical queen (This site is so "educational") on Friday, 14-Mar-2008 18:02:22

Alleigh girl, don't starve yourself for those shitheads. They only put you down to make themselves feel better. They're probably overweight themselves and don't have nothing else better to do but to put somebody else down. You just be you and keep thriving. There's other things you can do to lose weight besides starving yourself. Besides, starving yourself would only cause them to put you down more. The next thing they'll be saying is you're too thin. I saw a show on Dr. Phil where this girl was both anorrhexic and bulemic to the point where she had no fat nowhere on her body. Her whole body was skin and bones. Dr. Phil said she weighed 60 pounds but as thin as he described her, you'd think she weighs less than 60 pounds. I mean she litterly had nothing on her. It got so bad she hasn't had a menstral period in years. She'd bing so bad to the point where she'd throw up blood. She was on the show shaking because she had no muscle or fat to maintain her body temperature. She had to stay in blankets the whole entire show and she had medical personnel there watching her throughout the show because she was litterly on the verge of death if she didn't get help for herself. I'm not trying to scare you here, but starving yourself is not the way out and I'm only telling you this as your friend because even though I don't know you in person, I still care about you and you're better than what your family and friends call you. Continue on seeing your counselor and I wish you the best.

## Post 25 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Friday, 14-Mar-2008 22:59:32

a trick you might try but I give no guaranties of it's success though is during high school I used to go with out breakfast and lunch and instead I'd combine dinner and lunch in the late afternoon when I went home to raid the icebox. I did this because I'd spend my lunch money on dope with my friends and food was not the most important because I was able to eat at home instead. In the early morning my mom would leave five dollars for me on the table before she went to work and that was supposed to cover breakfast and lunch. Of course even in those years that was hardly enough to cover both breakfast and lunch but even still, I'd either wait till I had ten dollars and buy useless things with it, or keep the five and split with my friends. Some of that money went to cigarettes or at least anything other than food. This went on threw most my high school years. I was 15 when I started doing this. people noticed I lost 20 pounds or so. I went from being short and stocky to being tall and thin. All though after I dropped out of school I started eating regularly again and gained that weight back before a blink of an eye. So one disadvantage of loosing weight by yourself in this fashion, is it's even easier to gain it back. Now fast forward twenty years or so, since I can readily afford food amongst other things (recreational or otherwise) I'm still a steady 280 pounds. I'm back to being short and stocky and I like it.

## Post 26 by silly widdle dwagonish thingy (i'm stuck !) on Friday, 14-Mar-2008 23:32:55

here is my 1 cent. when i was younger lets just say my stepdad was a arsshole and well among all the other abusive things, when i gained a bunch of weight because of antirejection meds, i was often called buffy or buffalo or shit like that. well but when i tried to stay in my room i got dragged to the table..too bad murder is illegal?

## Post 27 by Miss Prism (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Saturday, 15-Mar-2008 1:50:08

Falcon, please do tell us how you managed to alter your height along with your weight.

## Post 28 by thefalcon (Account disabled) on Saturday, 15-Mar-2008 2:43:41

I don't think my hite changed at all. Since I was 15 I've been a steady 5 foot 5 but as I lost some weight people said it looked like I gained an inch. This is what they said but I never noticed much myself. I'm not one to constantly glance in the mirror but when I lost 20 people noticed it and wondered if I was eating at all. I think others noticed that I was getting in to pot and such. Either way with or with out pot how ever, I still had five dollars a day for school and I wasn't going to waste it on fast food or cafeteria food. Sure sometimes I'd have the pasties and I'd get a hot dog or some french fries from the hot dog wagon that parked outside of my school (to say nothing of the other food wagons circling the block and the pizza places near by) but mostly that was my spending money and it was spent all right.