# BDSM/S&M

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Friday, 04-May-2007 10:12:51

Ok, I'm looking for a BDSM partner/S&M partner and am also curious to whos into it

## Post 2 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Friday, 04-May-2007 12:35:28

well even if your not looking for a partner and your just into it this board is for that as well

## Post 3 by midnight sun (you can't catch me, i'm the palobread man) on Friday, 04-May-2007 18:36:53

I'm ignorant what is this bdsm/s&m stuff? what does this mean?

## Post 4 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Friday, 04-May-2007 20:43:50

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM is one place to read about bdsm and S&M deals in pain more than anything. Most people into S&M have a pain fetsh and also want to be owned as a submissive or a slave.
if you want more sites just ask

## Post 5 by midnight sun (you can't catch me, i'm the palobread man) on Friday, 04-May-2007 20:56:18

owned? my god I'm feeling bad now. what are you an object? anyway if you want to be a slave come here and wash my dishes, clean my room, take out the dogs even if it's raining like hell, and you can have all the pain you want because if you don't do what I told you to do I'll beat the crap out of you.
and no, I don't want more sites, thanks

## Post 6 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Friday, 04-May-2007 20:59:04

actually I was looking for a slave for myself but thanks anyways

## Post 7 by guitargod1 (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 04-May-2007 21:34:53

A good one is hard to find that's for sure. i've had a little success though in the past.

## Post 8 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Friday, 04-May-2007 21:46:05

I agree

## Post 9 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Saturday, 05-May-2007 6:26:05

You damn straight. I personally like to dominate so yeah, good luck.

## Post 10 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Saturday, 05-May-2007 6:38:08

I'll find what I'm looking for most likely

## Post 11 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Saturday, 05-May-2007 7:07:53

I wish more that were into this would honestly post, most arent because its me that started the topic

## Post 12 by midnight sun (you can't catch me, i'm the palobread man) on Saturday, 05-May-2007 7:14:17

I just don't get it. I don't like to dominate I don't care at all, but don't understand people who want to be treated like objects. but hey we are all different and nothing is surprising...

## Post 13 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Saturday, 05-May-2007 7:22:40

just remember we each have our strange likings

## Post 14 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Tuesday, 08-May-2007 7:00:47

shame on folks, just because its me asking. No one posts. you motherfuckers are just lazy bastards

## Post 15 by Nem (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 08-May-2007 11:29:15

Nem shakes his head. I am confused your msn address is listed in your profile which I checked out just for kicks. How does a christian rationalize the submission and abuse of another? confounding.
Nem-

## Post 16 by Harp (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Tuesday, 08-May-2007 17:53:54

FlyingPhoenix, you really do seem to suffer with some kind of persecution complex. Either that or you simply haven't realized yet that the World doesn't actually revolve around you. There are several reasons why people may not have chosen to add comments to this topic, the least of which, I suspect, is a dislike of you. Though of course that is a distinct possibility.
Just to spell a couple of alternatives out though, have you never considered that generally speaking this is considered a taboo subject? Just because you may feel perfectly comfortable discussing this topic doesn't actually mean that everybody will, even those who may be interested in it. Speaking of interest, there's another alternative, perhaps the case simply is that there are very few people who even care about this topic enough to wish to comment. Some people like to be dominated, others like to dominate, but the majority, possibly even vast majority, prefer evenly balanced relationships where neither party is especially dominant or submissive.
Apparently this sort of thing makes you tick. Equally as apparent is that this topic hasn't made anyone else tick and as I said above, I suspect a dislike of you comes a fair way down the list of reasons as to why that is the case.
Oh, just for the record, your comments in post 15 in which you call the zone's general populous, "motherfuckers and lazy bastards" actually display you not as a mature adult looking for a series BDSM relationship, but as a spoiled child who isn't getting his way. I'm not sure that would impress a woman, even one who wishes to be dominated, very much. Though I will accede at this point that I'm no expert on the subject.
Dan.

## Post 17 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Tuesday, 08-May-2007 21:14:14

wow Dan, you always seem to make me smile with your posts.

## Post 18 by blbobby (Ooo you're gona like this!) on Tuesday, 08-May-2007 23:29:43

Okay, I don't want to be a ... what was it? ... lazy mother fucker bastard?
So that's my post.
My only comment to Dan is: Christ, how close were you to the 8000 character limit?
Bob (who doesn't want to be a slave and... dishes?)

## Post 19 by The Roman Battle Mask (Making great use of my Employer's time.) on Wednesday, 09-May-2007 2:56:20

www.collarme.com for all your bdsm partner finding needs.

## Post 20 by Harp (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Wednesday, 09-May-2007 9:08:27

Bob, that post was only 1708 characters long, it was a baby sir! LOL.
Dan.

## Post 21 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Wednesday, 09-May-2007 14:35:45

Bob and Dan, I'm going to spank you both. Would you like that? LOL

## Post 22 by frequency (the music man) on Wednesday, 09-May-2007 15:44:11

if someone gets tied up and is forced to watch, you might have something. lol

## Post 23 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Sunday, 13-May-2007 22:56:42

I dont find that funny

## Post 24 by EssenceOfFaith (The Creamy Apple) on Wednesday, 16-May-2007 8:06:15

I've discussed the way I feel about BDSM in sex addicts to great lengths, but I'll say a little bit in summary for anyone who's interested in why anyone would want to be "controled". I will be the mature BDSM participant to comment, well with the exception of Jess who stated that she likes to dominate but nothing further. I don't see submission as letting someone control me. I see it as defining limits in which my partner can do whatever he likes to me. If I feel he is not within those limits, I use my safeword. My partner has never failed to listen to my safeword. I find that the trust I place in him frees me to completely relax and enjoy the pleasure he is trying to make me feel. Now, a slave has to do whatever their master tells them to. In some cases, they might have two masters. For instance, a dom and a sub who live in the same house might choose to have a slave do their housework and perform sexual favors. The sub and dom couple don't have to live in the same house, but it helps the dom/sub/slave combo if they are. Some slaves need to be slaves. Sometimes they wish they were dead if they cannot find a master or if their master frees them. I cannot justify that rationale, only the rationale of being a sub. Subs are different than slaves, because we freely choose to submit to our partner and will only submit if they staywithin the limits we define.

## Post 25 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Wednesday, 16-May-2007 8:38:48

I agree 100% with rosie, but here is another thing to take into consideration. In the end, alot of people fail to understand this, but it is often misconstrued that the dom has all the power, but in the end it's the sub who does. The sub says when it's too much, when he/she can't take it anymore, not the dom, if the dom were respective of his/her sub, they would know when to stop use the safeword, etc as rosie was saying. So people, being submissive isn't a bad thing.
But what I do wonder is this, is it like possible to be a dom in most situations, but then have just one person, just one... out of god knows who many in this world bring you over the edge, and cause you to be a sub? At least for them?

## Post 26 by Emerald-Hourglass (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 16-May-2007 11:18:06

I wish my bf was more dom.

## Post 27 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Wednesday, 16-May-2007 18:19:38

lonestar I agree its often thought that the power is with the Dom but the true power is with the sub for shes the one who has the power to say thats too much and I need to stop. and babygirl wait till your 18 hun because its illegal for you to do all this we talk about here curently

## Post 28 by midnight sun (you can't catch me, i'm the palobread man) on Thursday, 17-May-2007 1:52:10

flying phoenix, get a house elf

## Post 29 by EssenceOfFaith (The Creamy Apple) on Thursday, 17-May-2007 3:44:52

Wow, that's a very interesting take, Jess. One person that would cause a dom to be a sub. You know, I always pictured myself as being a dom. Then Dan and I got together, and I was a sub. It was just this onconscious thing that happened. That doesn't have much to do with this topic, but I'd be interested to hear about doms gone sub, if there are any out there.

## Post 30 by maroon five (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 17-May-2007 6:47:08

Okay, I don't particularly like the idea of having that much control over someone, or having them be my slave, but I do like to dominate, sometimes. I also like the guy to have equal part in it as well. that's why I like to siber them first. I don't kno if that's what your looking for, but their it is.

## Post 31 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Thursday, 17-May-2007 18:59:00

honestly liz it could be but I'm not 100% sure yet

## Post 32 by maroon five (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 17-May-2007 19:27:30

omg! kidding about the siber thing. lmfao!

## Post 33 by FlyingPhoenix (move over school!) on Thursday, 17-May-2007 21:03:27

yea I know liz but its fun to laugh at those who believe it, I was gonna say hey to you but you didnt respond

## Post 34 by Siriusly Severus (The ESTJ 1w9 3w4 6w7 The Taskmaste) on Sunday, 28-Jun-2009 14:32:59

gross

## Post 35 by ablindgibsongirl (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Monday, 12-Oct-2009 7:07:55

I've been thinking about putting up a thread for blind subs, maybe I will at some poitnt. The Christian experience is all about submission. Mary Magdalene saw Jesus as her Master. Remember the alabaster box and Mary wiping Jesus' feet with her hair? Rebecca veiling her head when she saw Isaac? There are many verses to quote but I've not had enough coffee. The bdsm world is large and complex and contains the sacred and the profane. It's really up to you to define yourself and your limits. No definition or person can do that for you. Oh, Islam itself means submission. Would anyone be interested in a thread just for blind subs? Peace. Tiffany

## Post 36 by bermuda-triangulese (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Monday, 12-Oct-2009 8:37:56

I am dom in bdsm and enjoy it lots. Usually only in specific scenes though I've never gone further to elaborate scenes of more than few hours in length. Would have no problem doing so though.
MJ

## Post 37 by blindndangerous (the blind and dangerous one) on Monday, 12-Oct-2009 23:54:07

Post 28, that was great.