# when both have feeling, but couldn't move forward cause,

Category: Dating and Relationships

## Post 1 by season (the invisible soul) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 5:11:15

hi.
if you and someone have feeling towards one another, and both of you know what is all about, but it simply couldn't move forward caus eof the distance problem, what will you do?
to forget that person or to somehow make it work, or just, ignore that feeling and beeing good friends? if beeing good friends, will you feel unconfort if one day that person have another lover, but you still feel strongly for him / her?

## Post 2 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 6:18:12

Woa sis, that's a good question ... I would definitely try to make it work first. I mean there's nothing wrong with trying, eh? Forgetting - it never worked for me. If that doesn't work, then you can still try to be best friends. At least try. For me it worked. But try to make it owrk first. Best of luck to you and the one you are talking about. *hugs*

## Post 3 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 8:16:17

If it was really working in the rare times that we were together, I'd move, definately. Hmm if they chose someone else I would still ask if they were sure, and they weren't getting into relationship out of convenience.

## Post 4 by UnknownQuantity (Account disabled) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 10:48:45

I agree with the others, try andmake it work first.
Here's wishing you luck.

## Post 5 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 11:23:02

Well I think it depends. I think that if you have feelings for someone you’ve only met online and there is no chance of you being together in person then you should walk away before things become too intense. I think that it’s easier to walk away from a situation before you have actually met, as once you’ve had a physical connection with someone then it’s that much harder. I do think friendship is possible, but I think that it’s easy to become jealous when a new partner enters into the equasion.

## Post 6 by DancingAfterDark (I just keep on posting!) on Thursday, 05-Oct-2006 16:16:03

Sugarbaby pretty much said what I was going to say. If there's a possibility of the two of you meeting, I'd say go ahead and try. But only if it's a good possibility. If it's not likely to happen, and you know that, there's really no point continuing the romantic relationship. Nothing wrong with trying to be friends, and if that's the way you decide to go I wish you the best of luck. It's worked for me in the past, and then again, there've been times when it hasn't. Depends on the people in question and what they want. Hope it works out for you. Cheers.

## Post 7 by season (the invisible soul) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 3:18:17

hmm, i agree on all of you. i think, if this situation happen on me, its really gotta depends on lots of thing. friendship is something that i'll try my very best to maintain. yes, might have the feeling on moving forward than friendship, but somehow i'll try to maintain the basic friendship first before anything happen or any further plan other than friendship.
love can be easy but yet can be hard sometime. jealousy can make a couple beeing very hurtful, and if that happen, i'll rather keep the friendship than any other thing.
the beauty of love i think, is not necessary to have it, is to feel it and to honore that person even it just maintain as close friends.
this discussion come to me because, well, as an overseas student, sometime i really feel that distance can really tare an oppotunity of beeing a couple away even though both party might want it to happen. or have strong feeling of effection with one another.

## Post 8 by Pure love (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 5:17:39

True, sis. Very true.

## Post 9 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Friday, 06-Oct-2006 22:18:47

yes, true indeed.

## Post 10 by psychic teacher (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2006 13:09:13

If I try to imagine myself in this situation and if things for me are exactly as you describe, I would deffenetly try to make it work. So if you think this person feels the same and is worthid, just go for it. This is the only way for you to find out if this can happen or not. And if something goes wrong, you can always stay friends. Online relationship can probably be hard and confusing at the same time, but still, learn as much as you can from all you experience. And who knows, one day you may be able to meet in person and discover something more.

## Post 11 by euroboy (Newborn Zoner) on Friday, 20-Oct-2006 13:48:18

Hmmmmm, I don't know. What if its a person that you do know in person and that you are very good friends with? If you ask them and they reject you then what would you do but maybe they are thinking the same? I think its not worth it with online relationships. I know friends that have gotten hurt in doing it that way.